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Hockeyerik 08-20-2014 12:52 PM

I sent it
 
Well, I sent an email to AW. In it I told her that my heart is not into doing the work to rebuild our relationship and for both our sakes we should part ways now and stop with our expectations of each other.
It took me half the day to work up the courage to hit send. I am fully expecting a full on assault of my character as a response. Going to need strength and support to get past these next few days. Thanks. :)

AnvilheadII 08-20-2014 12:54 PM

whew, well that's done! what are YOUR next steps then? that's where i'd keep my focus, and not fret about how she might reply. defuse the bomb before it gets a chance to go off!!!

ResignedToWait 08-20-2014 12:58 PM

That's a tough message to send! Great job going through with it, that had to take a lot of strength to do.

:c014:

hopeful4 08-20-2014 01:00 PM

Good for you. If you do get some onslaught of criticism, or begging, whatever, just move right past it. See it as an expected part of the reaction that will improve with time.

FenixRising73 08-20-2014 01:18 PM

Same here, why should I put WORK into something they are clearly not willing to do their part ? Work requires two and I'm an island.

I'm in need of support today too. Want you to know that you are doing a good job - decoding the quack and not taking her back! Maybe when you could lend me your decoder ring, since I seem to have misplaced mine...temporarily.

Hang in there!

Blossom717 08-20-2014 01:20 PM

Remember, she can say what she wants. So can you. Just keep your head up, and know that you don't have to be pulled down into her misery if you don't want to.

Hammer 08-20-2014 01:29 PM

soooo.

Out with the bad . . . in with the good.

On the important side of things . . . whatcha doing good for you?

Hockeyerik 08-20-2014 01:35 PM

Well I'm going to see Interpol in concert tonight so that's one thing I am doing for me. I wish I had a decoder ring but my secret is I just don't believe anything she says.
That's what was the hardest thing to get past is I know what her response will be like, I also know I don't have to respond. It's still not fun to read that stuff though. Thanks guys :)

Thumper 08-20-2014 01:44 PM


Originally Posted by Hockeyerik (Post 4850699)
Well I'm going to see Interpol in concert tonight so that's one thing I am doing for me.

That qualifies as a very. very. very good thing. :) Have a great night!

FenixRising73 08-20-2014 02:04 PM

Thanks for the "secret." Like I said I lost mine temporarily - so glad I have this place to post. LOVE Interpol - HAVE fun, do you!

"I also know I don't have to respond" THANK YOU

Hockeyerik 08-20-2014 02:09 PM

I love them too. Right when I started liking them a lot they had just gone on hiatus. I told myself 4 years ago, if they ever come here again I'm going. Really looking forward to it!


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