Rosalba

I'd be sceptical that his therapist actually told him those things about you.

Any therapist worth their salt will concentrate on the problems that their client is presenting with, not try and blame the partner. Any therapist worth their salt will realise that it takes 'two to tango' and is more likely to be looking at the dynamics between you, rather than scapegoating - which is a typical part of his paranoid personality disorder.

To put it another way - if this were a court of law, do you think there would be any difficulty in demonstrating that someone who was "bipolar, paranoid personality disorder, and drug and alcohol dependent" might not be the most reliable of witnesses? I get that he's very manipulative, but therapists are trained to see beyond this - and I suspect that all this negative stuff that she's supposedly come out with is yet more manipulation on his part towards you.

If he wants you to go, you can always give it a try but keep an open mind. I'm guessing that if you attend and issues are clarified and worked on, it won't be long before he leaves again because the therapist is "bullying" him.

closetcodie

I left a msg for his therapist this morning, stating that I was RAHs wife and that he had invited me to come with him to his session this week. I didn't hear back. I realize she may not be able to call until he signs a release form.

Flavia2

My AH's therapist told him it would be a conflict to see us for mc and referred us to another counselor. Mine said the same. It seems weird that she would see him as an individual and the two of you as a couple. Just my experience!