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Old 08-10-2014, 11:18 PM
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After two weeks of no contact my ex ah is trying to contact me!! I feel so excited and important all of a sudden! Snap out of it... it's not about me it's about him controlling me or something but it's not about me .. Don't let this go to your head and think he still loves you. I must stick to no contact to protect my life. Oh Jesus please protect me as I am so weak.
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Old 08-11-2014, 01:28 AM
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You aren't weak, KI, you have it all figured out and you are coming to the right place. You can't help your feelings. Just don't break no contact!!! Wait this out, find friends, get outside, ride a bike, get busy!!!

I feel fine too until some stupid beautiful man starts paying me lovely attention and then turns it into a game. Then it was better not getting involved in the first place. Ugh. Stupid wonderful feelings that make everything worse later.
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I agree with pippi you are not weak. I experience this aswell when he tries to contact me or sits outside the house to pick up the kids in a place where he can see me.

Stay strong if you are like me if you respond you will fall apart and lose all control do you feel better when when you have no contact?? If so don't respond or you will be sucked back into the vortex of misery that addiction causes!!

Focus on you not him
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Hey Killer - I would suggest you reread your posts and what brought you here in the first place.

He is the same person that did all that. You went no contact for a reason. If you need reminding read, you have documented why. In as much as you want to believe that he might have changed, and that you may could make it work that is but a fairly tale. A girl movie in your head.

Your side of the street is free of pain, and lies, and abuse and addiction. Keep it that way you worked hard to get it there.
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Thanks guys, I've healed more in the two weeks I've had no contact than I have in the last two years with contact. I'm so scared of him and so intimidated by him, I just don't know how he's going to react.. He's starting to get a bit crazy on me.. I'm worried even with police support and a lawyer. I never thought I would say this but I hope he gets bored of wanting to control me and leaves me alone.
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Old 08-11-2014, 06:22 AM
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Then the best thing you can do is ignore. Any engagement is going to be viewed as opening the door for more.
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Killerinstinct,

You can do it. Remind yourself, you deserve better. Your feelings for him will always be there but it's best to keep your distance.
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Originally Posted by killerinstinct View Post
I hope he gets bored of wanting to control me and leaves me alone.
The best way to help this along is to maintain no contact. Someone here has a great story about two wolves that live inside everyone in constant struggle -- the angry, negative one and the loving, kind one -- and the story asks which one wins the battle. The answer is "The one you feed."

Don't feed his drama.
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