Combakkid

I have really been practicing the detachment part of dealing with my AH and I honestly didn't think it was making any real difference until he came home from work last night, sat down to watch a movie with me and randomly and while sober asked why I was so distant all of a sudden. I didn't take the bait from him and changed the subject and continued on. It may be a small step for me, but it is a step forward none the less. I also realized this morning as he had started drinking after our conversation (which would have happened if I had engaged or not) and was banging things around in the kitchen so I ran downstairs to see who I could defuse whatever he was getting angry about then stopped and realized I was only trying to defuse things to not give me an excuse to leave. The worse thing that will happen if things escalate is that I will be forced to put plan B into action and that won't be as bad as it seemed in my head. My kids and I would be ok. I just might be progressing after all!

Pia

That is wonderful news. Take it one day at at time!!!! You are making wonderful progress.

CodeJob

Good for you! Detachment is handy dandy tool! Also good at work!