choublak

Oh, The Office.

redatlanta

WHAT KIND OF GRAVY?????

never heard of this.

amy55

choublak, they also have what they call monkey meat here. When I saw that I said WTH is that? It's chopped bologna with mayonnaise. Even to me it sounded disgusting, but then I remembered one of my fav sandwiches was bologna and mayonnaise I might try that someday.

amy55

Anyways though, I am feeling a lot better, and I am glad that I went today. I need to do a lot of work on my trust issue, or not, (lol), I'll see.

Thumper

Hi, I'm so glad you went too. I came to this thread because I just watched a TedTalk - Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability. I thought of this thread so you may want to watch it. It is about 20 minutes long and you can find it on youtube under that name.

amy55

I'm going to watch that now. thank you.

Croissant

Amy, I think being able to tell a guy you expected him to check you were ok was amazing, and that he coped so well with it and wanted to make sure you sorted things out.

It sounds like a great chance to get to know someone, and he sounds like a very self aware person. Which is great.

Make sure you make some time just to enjoy and have fun.

Glad to hear something nice is happening.

FeelingGreat

I like the frog spawn bit. He sounds like he has a good sense of humour.

amy55

I watched that or as much as I could on my computer. My computer overheats and it buffered a lot.

What I got out of it was sometimes I need to be vulnerable. I can't close off my heart. Will try to watch the rest of it tomorrow.

And I already have a cooling pad for my computer, but watching you tube or any video, may and will shut my computer down.

Thank you , I appreciate that. I know I want to keep myself locked up, but to find happiness again, I need to open up.

amy55

He does have a sense of humor and that did break an uneasy moment for me. Even now I still laugh about that.

amy55

It's so hard to tell people about my "triggers". I walked on eggshells for years, and I don't want someone else to feel that way about me. But, I have triggers.

I feel like I have this guy walking around on eggshells. I need to be open here with him, and it is hard for me, but if I don't then he won't know what to expect or why I react the way I do.

It's so hard to go from trying to stuff your feelings, and walking on eggshells waiting for the explosion, and to be with someone who wants you to talk about those things, .......

It's

another trigger for me, me being able to speak. I was told, you have the right to remain silent, and anything you say, will and can be held against you. And he proved it.

It's so hard for me to be open to someone.

People that I have met here see me as very talkative, happy, etc....

This isn't the person that I knew me as. I was shy, withdrawn, afraid to say anything.

This in a way is a new person that I didn't know I was.

Y'all remember I was married and living with him for over 25 years. Was with him for about 3 before then, then the divorce period was 2 1/2 years.

I don't know who I am, and this guy is willing to listen to me. Why?????

CodeJob

Amy, he sees the new you - talkative, happy, etc....

amy55

I hope so, because he also saw me at my extemes. Volatile, angry, and homicidal. (lol)

The best option is to take it slow, and he suggested that. I'm good with this!!!!!!! Just why is he so effing understanding????????? (lol)

This just makes me think that I am crazier than I already thought I was crazy.

amy55

I just want to thank everyone who got me out of that tree today. I wanted to hide out and isolate, and this may be a good thing for me.

Hawkeye13

You can make a good face-to-face friend whatever happens
and that's always wonderful.

I find it so much harder to make connections now compared to when I was younger.

Enjoy learning about yourself as the process unfolds.

jarp

I'm so lad that things went well.

I don't know you but from what you share here, and how you support others....how could someone NOT want to know the real you?

The REAL you is all the different parts of you that make up the wonderful person you are.

He sounds lovely too!

FireSprite

Plain old, thick, salty brown gravy... with crispy, thin fries. Best served in small mom & pop diners where the gravy is homemade.



Yep, that's it! Right outside of the Poconos.

readerbaby71

I live it Pittsburgh and it's true. People do put fries on top of salads. I find it gross, but to each his own. I don't know if fries with gravy are just a Western PA thing. I just realized that this thread must have affected my subconscious. I went out to a diner last night and had a hot turkey sandwich and fries with gravy! No wonder I was so tired this morning.......

hopeful4

So so glad you went! He sounds like a really nice person. Relax girl....have some fun in your life!!!

XXX

fairlyuncertain

Amy, I'm glad you had a great picnic! There are wonderful men out there, and jerks and everything in between. Just remember--you would have been exactly the same, valuable person if it had gone badly!!

We all deserve respect and a natural flow in our relationships. Some people can't give that, and don't care. If you run into one of those, it is NOT YOUR FAULT.

That's been a helpful attitude for me to take--that getting out there again can be fun, and not heavy or full of pressure to get it 'right.' When it IS right, the pressure is gone.

Good luck with this, and have fun!!