Woodeye

My wife is about to be discharged from her inpatient program. I visited her once a week and attended family week and by all indications she's doing well. Her counselors agree as well. She's engaged, motivated, and loves the way she feels.

Yet, I'm not ready.

FeelingGreat

Hi Woodeye - what are you worried will happen? What's your worst case or best case? Is there some support in place for you? If not, why not try Alanon for your own support.

MissFixit

Can she go to a sober living house?

How many times has she done rehab before?

Woodeye

Worst case: relapse, best case: sober.

This is her first try at rehab. This is all so new to us. Been married many years without many glitches. She started taking prescribed Xanax to take the edge off after several consecutive deaths on her side of the family. Drinking beer with it was too much and addiction set in.

She's got a great job as a nurse, with plenty of motivation from the board of nursing to stay sober.

I've been going to Al-anon meetings for support. Hope to hook up with a therapist soon.

I didn't expect this to happen. I guess not truly knowing what the future holds is what is the scariest.

inpieces314

You're scared because you know the situation has changed, and you don't yet know how it will affect YOU.

It's a learning curve, readjustment period, whatever you want to call it. But soon after she comes back, you will start getting back into a routine.

Embrace the change.

dandylion

I think that alanon and a therapist for yourself (MUST be well versed in addiction issues!!!) is a good idea!!!!!

dandylion

lillamy

That makes sense to me. Here's what my sponsor said when I was "future tripping": You're right -- you don't know what's going to happen tomorrow. But if you spend today worrying about tomorrow, then even if tomorrow goes really well, you've lost a day of your life when you haven't really lived, but worried instead.

Great words, huh? Now if only it was that easy to live them, right? *sigh*