Hypocrisy police, continued
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Hypocrisy police, continued
A recent conversation with a friend who's an active A:
Active A: You need to work on your problem-solving skills.
Me: You of all people have room to talk.
Active A: You are not the hypocrisy police. And my drinking habits don't make what I just said any less true.
No, it doesn't make it any less true. I do need to work on my problem-solving skills lol.
But I still take issue with someone who "solves problems" by getting blacked-out drunk, telling me that I need to work on my problem-solving skills.
Why?
Active A: You need to work on your problem-solving skills.
Me: You of all people have room to talk.
Active A: You are not the hypocrisy police. And my drinking habits don't make what I just said any less true.
No, it doesn't make it any less true. I do need to work on my problem-solving skills lol.
But I still take issue with someone who "solves problems" by getting blacked-out drunk, telling me that I need to work on my problem-solving skills.
Why?
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You pointed out her hypocrisy. She gave you two statements back that are both true. Sounds to me like you are good friends. My best friend says pointed stuff like that to me, she states the obvious. Cracks me up because I know it's true.
I didn't mean to offend you.
I didn't mean to offend you.
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It's not even so much the unsolicited advice I take issue with.
It's that the person giving the advice is in no position to be giving it.
(One could argue that no one is in any position to be giving any unsolicited advice, but that's not the point.)
It's like...you of all people have the nerve to tell me I need to quit avoiding my problems?
It's that the person giving the advice is in no position to be giving it.
(One could argue that no one is in any position to be giving any unsolicited advice, but that's not the point.)
It's like...you of all people have the nerve to tell me I need to quit avoiding my problems?
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I am an alcoholic and so is my BF. He tries to get involved in my program at least once a week.
Him: You should sponsor people.
Him: You should be more assertive at your HG
Him: You should not have made that comment
Him: You should have made that comment
Him: You should read this book
On and on it goes....
I tell him the same answer every time.
Me: What I should be doing or not doing it is between me and my sponsor. Why don't you discuss what I should be doing with your sponsor"
You should see the look he gives me..HAHA but it works as he mumbles out of the room
Him: You should sponsor people.
Him: You should be more assertive at your HG
Him: You should not have made that comment
Him: You should have made that comment
Him: You should read this book
On and on it goes....
I tell him the same answer every time.
Me: What I should be doing or not doing it is between me and my sponsor. Why don't you discuss what I should be doing with your sponsor"
You should see the look he gives me..HAHA but it works as he mumbles out of the room
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Originally Posted by choublak 
It's not even so much the unsolicited advice I take issue with.
It's that the person giving the advice is in no position to be giving it.
It's that the person giving the advice is in no position to be giving it.
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It's called blame shifting. By focusing on you they don't have to look at themselves.
As for why they do it. Well, you shouldn't be surprised when an alcoholic acts like an alcoholic.
Your friend,
As for why they do it. Well, you shouldn't be surprised when an alcoholic acts like an alcoholic.
Your friend,
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Originally Posted by NoelleR
If there's one thing I've learned in this life, it's what's important: it's the message NOT the messenger.
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Originally Posted by choublak
Not necessarily. A lot of times you have to consider the source.
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Originally Posted by NoelleR
Personally, I don't care who said it; if I like what's been said, who said it is irrelevant.
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At least, that's what I do.
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