Filed for divorce
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SP, you need legal protection and you have children to think of.
Don't let pride or hope he'll do what you want stand between resources and your kids.
I grew up in a home where my mom did just that and instead of getting what she was entitled to from my father,
she said she'd "do it on her own" which led to lack and stress and suffering that didn't have to be for our family.
In the end, her resentment at the struggle led her down the path to alcoholism herself.
Please take care of yourself
Don't let pride or hope he'll do what you want stand between resources and your kids.
I grew up in a home where my mom did just that and instead of getting what she was entitled to from my father,
she said she'd "do it on her own" which led to lack and stress and suffering that didn't have to be for our family.
In the end, her resentment at the struggle led her down the path to alcoholism herself.
Please take care of yourself
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Sounds like you are in panic mode. Understandable. In my opinion, I'm not sure telling him this is not what you want only gives him false hope and that isn't fair to him. Unless this is REALLY not what you want, then don't do it, if this life is acceptable to you. You can't have it the way it was I the past, because it simply isn't that way anymore. I'm sorry.
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Originally Posted by lillamy 
I'm not a lawyer but I want to warn you: if there is a protective order in place where he can't contact you, if you contact him, YOU can get in legal trouble - it can be viewed as you trying to trick him into breaking the law.
Also, as part of a No Contact order, or an Injunction, the judge will specifically point out to the respondent that going through any third party is also considered contact, so be aware of that, SP.
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Originally Posted by Confused39
I don't know if you can get a legal separation where you are? It's not a divorce but where I live in the UK it can ensure provisions such as you remain in the family home and financial assistance etc.
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13
SP, you need legal protection and you have children to think of. Don't let pride or hope he'll do what you want stand between resources and your kids. I grew up in a home where my mom did just that and instead of getting what she was entitled to from my father, she said she'd "do it on her own" which led to lack and stress and suffering that didn't have to be for our family. In the end, her resentment at the struggle led her down the path to alcoholism herself. Please take care of yourself
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Originally Posted by pixilation
Check to see if your local job service has a "displaced homemaker's" program.
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Originally Posted by poolsideGal
^^^^^ It just occurred to me that on the other hand, possibly contacting him too much could have him wanting to file for an injunction against you for harassment. Hmm.
Thank you for telling me that. That is also something I never would have thought of.
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If you google your state's job service you can look on their website and see if it's listed. Also, please if you have a local crisis center, go. Most communities have different resources, and they'll have listings of those resources.
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