Overbearing Sponsor
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Join Date: Jul 2006
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Originally Posted by Luri 
This is how I started my program, but since moving to this new area I've come to see that the program is different here. It's a weird, sponsor-centric program...with grandsponsors.
I hate it. They bully you into service and when you don't take it you are "talked to" but all the old timers(they are treated like gurus). It's a difficult area - its either way intense "cult" like or very loose meetings with very little recovery.
Thank you all for responding it helps a lot.
I hate it. They bully you into service and when you don't take it you are "talked to" but all the old timers(they are treated like gurus). It's a difficult area - its either way intense "cult" like or very loose meetings with very little recovery.
Thank you all for responding it helps a lot.
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Join Date: Jan 2015
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Agreed
I identify with the original post. I have a sponsor who is great- he is experienced, knowledgeable, etc. But it's every single day, maybe multiple times a day, when he will reach out to the point where it's like being under observation. I am good with learning how to be more self-less and controlling myself, but he seems to be exhibiting complete desire to control me and micro-manage. I see a lot of AAs whose lives revolve around the big book, recovery, and meetings. I understand the importance of recovery being a primary focus for me moving forward. I just have a life outside of AA and I choose to be a part of the life around me and will include recovery in everything I do. Just frustrating to me when you have these principles in the program contorted into "you will do this or else.." by personalities.
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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Originally Posted by Lily1918
I'm gunna throw a grenade out here and say this:
be careful who you choose as a sponsor. This is a program for codependency right!? well... a sponsor who is controlling, argumentative, or constantly trying to "fix" you probably doesn't have as much recovery as you might think...
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be careful who you choose as a sponsor. This is a program for codependency right!? well... a sponsor who is controlling, argumentative, or constantly trying to "fix" you probably doesn't have as much recovery as you might think...
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Imagine finding a practicing Codie at an alanon meeting.
imagine finding a practicing alcoholic at an AA meeting.
Not only that, it's easy to talk the talk inside a meeting. The rubber hits the road outside and many times a different persona comes out.
When was time for a new sponsor( in AA ) I prayed on it and he appeared.
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