Ursula745

That's not his addiction speaking. That's HIM. No, I would never trust him again. For me, once is enough. Multiple times? Hell to the NAW.

I call BS on the fact that he says since he is sober it won't happen again.

You deserve better....

NYCDoglvr

You have no reason to trust him. What we alcoholics learn in recovery (22.5 years) is that we're responsible for action, word and thought. The booze didn't cause him to lie, he choose that course and now it's time to deal with the consequences. Not everything can be fixed with an apology. Right now it only matters how you feel and what you do about it. I found I couldn't remain with someone I didn't trust or respect and while it was very painful to leave I'm now free to find someone who is capable of a relationship. My heart goes out to you ......... keep posting and head for Alanon. For me it was a lifesaver.

NWGRITS

In my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater. Fool me once, get the hell out. I've been burned too many times to trust a partner who has had any type of affair, emotional or otherwise. And honestly, the only thing that separates an emotional affair from a physical one is opportunity. And that's straight out of the mouth of our chaplain.

Tiggs77

Thank you! I am going to keep that one in my bank!

Pia

I appreciate this saying. Thank you. It's amazing that someones opinion can change my perspective at the right time.