It's Malignant
 

Bad news

Also my brothers doctor called and told me my nephew has been abusing my brother physically, emotionally and verbally.

I could kill the nephew:a043:

I am not sure I understand, but I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

I am so sorry to hear this. Will also keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

If I remember correctly, your brother had a tumor on his lung, is that correct? I'm so sorry to hear it is malignant. I'm also very sorry to hear your brother has been abused. I hope there is some way to get him away from his abuser.

I know we cannot control others, but that doesn't make it any less sad when someone we love isn't taking care of themselves. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your brother. (((HUGS)))

I'm sorry about your brother's health. His Dr should file a report with Adult Protective Service if he feels your brother is being abused, it's actually his obligation to do that.

Yes--I agree it should be reported.
Maybe tell his doctor about it if you don't want to do it yourself?

I do think the doctor would be obliged to report is an an offiical.

I'm so sorry.
My mother had this happen to her as well--lung cancer diagnosis on top of COPD
Because she refused to quit smoking or drinking or modify her lifestyle in any manner,
the doctors decided she was a poor prognosis for surgery and told me to contact Hospice,
and pretty much kicked her to the curb for treatment.

Hospice was amazing.
They helped me with counseling / visits and talked to her weekly directly about her life
and life decisions. They kept her physically as comfortable as possible, and not arguing
for pain meds constantly with a doctor was also helpful for both of us. I was done in by then.

I would also suggest you check with his town / county about *elder care services.
They can be official advocates for your brother if abuse is going on and will be a "front line" of defense legally to protect him and look after his rights.

*I'm assuming your brother is older from recalling the posts so apology if I'm incorrect.

Most important are Power of Attorney for Health and also financial if applicable.
Sometimes abusive children of elderly drain resources so again, the elder rights organization can become POA if you or other family members are unwilling / unable.

I am so sorry. I agree with what everyone has said and I send you huge hugs and many prayers.

:hug: this is very sad news...and upsetting about the nephew.
Much good advice in the thread, though.

Wow, you all are amazing

Hugs to each and every one of you

I will talk to his doctor about reporting it, I will be looking into an Advocate and Power of Attorney

I tell you if I had known what growing up was all about I wouldn't have been in such a rush to get there...............

Take care and so sorry to hear about your brothers diagnosis. Try to take care of you through it all also! (((HUGS)))

All I want to do is brew up a pot of tea, get a good book and hide.....

Got the book, got the tea - need the time!

I would run away and join a circus but I think I am already in one!