Carlotta

A longtime member says, “An expectation is a premeditated resentment.” I take this statement to suggest that when I have a resentment I can look to my expectations for a probable source. Here’s an example: I have a brother who is less attentive to being prompt than I am. When I make a plan with him that involves meeting at a certain time, I am cooperating in establishing conditions that encourage me to nurse a resentment. On the other hand, when I make a plan with my brother that is based on no expectation of promptness, I feel no resentment.


“I have accepted myself and I’m beginning to accept other people the way they are each day. Now I have fewer resentments.”

allysen

This was one of the first passages I read when a friend lent me her copy of Courage to Change. I believe it was what convinced me to try Al-Anon. I wanted to hear more!