Charmed3

In my experience, if you share with him your heart felt feelings about how he made you feel. The next time, he will take those feelings you expressed, use them and turn them on YOU and double or triple the hurt you felt the first time around.

Better left unsaid.

Seren

Sadly, sharing information to no good end is not confined to alcoholic spouses. My husband would provide research articles on the health effects of drinking to his son. "Jr." would receive them in silence and then mock them and his father. Later, any emotional weakness shown by my husband would be used against him by his son. This was particularly true during what we like to call the "crack days".

I so wish that our love could save the alcoholics and addicts in our lives, but it can't. This site is testament to that. But we can love ourselves enough to believe that we deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.

I hope and pray for brighter days ahead for you searching!