Did I do the right thing?
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That is healthy! Good for you! But...
An alcoholic will never validate your feelings, suspicions, gut instinct. They will make you doubt your own judgement, feel like YOU caused a bad result that you have to fix. You 'made' her break up with you, somehow, but if you had done things 'right' she would have reacted in a normal way to your healthy conversation--so you must be wrong. Right?
Is your head tied in knots yet? This is the kind of insanity alcoholics subject people to. Pat yourself on the back, say a prayer for her well-being, and move on.
You're on the codependent merry-go-round. You looked at your own feelings and experiences, trusted that something felt wrong TO YOU, and discussed it with your girlfriend.
That is healthy! Good for you! But...
An alcoholic will never validate your feelings, suspicions, gut instinct. They will make you doubt your own judgement, feel like YOU caused a bad result that you have to fix. You 'made' her break up with you, somehow, but if you had done things 'right' she would have reacted in a normal way to your healthy conversation--so you must be wrong. Right?
Is your head tied in knots yet? This is the kind of insanity alcoholics subject people to. Pat yourself on the back, say a prayer for her well-being, and move on.
That is healthy! Good for you! But...
An alcoholic will never validate your feelings, suspicions, gut instinct. They will make you doubt your own judgement, feel like YOU caused a bad result that you have to fix. You 'made' her break up with you, somehow, but if you had done things 'right' she would have reacted in a normal way to your healthy conversation--so you must be wrong. Right?
Is your head tied in knots yet? This is the kind of insanity alcoholics subject people to. Pat yourself on the back, say a prayer for her well-being, and move on.
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