SparkleKitty

Yes. You can't have a relationship of any kind with someone's potential.

fedup3

NorthofWest, someone will come into your life that loves, respects and cherishes you and your x does not sound like him.

NorthofWest

That is so true. Im thinking too much of his potential...,like potential soberity. Soberity that may never happen.

Fedup- thank you. There is someone who treats me with so much respect but i am still such a mess from the miscarriage and now THIS that it wouldnt be fair to him to get involved. i

CarryThatWeight

I learned this in Al Anon: An alcoholic is not responsible for having a disease, but they are responsible for their behavior.

NorthofWest

Thats perfect. I need to get my butt to al anon.

I was reading another post where someone said their aex said they didnt think their behavior was wrong. It makes me so sick to my stomach that he more than likely believes that treating me horribly after going through the traumatic experience of losing a child was totally normal. Like it was ok to ignore me and dismiss when i asked for help and to leave me with the bill. Ugh