A small victory, but still broken hearted.
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A small victory, but still broken hearted.
My AH was just told that his liver enzymes are elevated and has to go in for more testing. I could tell that this was on his mind all weekend, I simply offered some support and encouraged him to folow-up with his MD.
Towards the end of our visit (we are seperated right now), he was very anxious to leave, go back to his "home" (6 hrs away) and to start drinking again. (He only lasts about a day and a half. Anyways, he threw a huge fit over a very minor issue, tried to bully me, manipulate me, blame me, etc... you all know the drill.
It felt so good, to simply say (with no raised voice or attitude)...I can't control you, your attitude or your alcholism....I'm not engaging you. And I simply walked off...took a short walk, enjoyed the view from my front porch. Meditated. I watched him drive off, without so much of a "goodbye" to me or the kids.
It truly amazes me to witness the depth of the alcoholics denial...at one point, he tried to blame me for his liver...if I hadn't left him, his drinking wouldn't have gotten worse, etc....how very sad.
Towards the end of our visit (we are seperated right now), he was very anxious to leave, go back to his "home" (6 hrs away) and to start drinking again. (He only lasts about a day and a half. Anyways, he threw a huge fit over a very minor issue, tried to bully me, manipulate me, blame me, etc... you all know the drill.
It felt so good, to simply say (with no raised voice or attitude)...I can't control you, your attitude or your alcholism....I'm not engaging you. And I simply walked off...took a short walk, enjoyed the view from my front porch. Meditated. I watched him drive off, without so much of a "goodbye" to me or the kids.
It truly amazes me to witness the depth of the alcoholics denial...at one point, he tried to blame me for his liver...if I hadn't left him, his drinking wouldn't have gotten worse, etc....how very sad.
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paige....I think you did very well under this circumstance. There is nothing more that you could have done---anything else would have been very counterproductive, anyway.....(you knew that, didn't you?).
The depth of denial can just leave a person reeling in disbelief!!.
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The depth of denial can just leave a person reeling in disbelief!!.
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Yes, Quack, Quack Quack! Its always everyone else's fault because they cannot take responsiblity for their own actions. I am sure you held his mouth open and poured the alcohol down just to raise his liver enzymes. Yup sounds logical right? Great job not engaging and focusing on you!
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