A Little Plucky - Fear & Communication
Hi Codejob,
That sounds like a great talk with your sponsor. Good luck talking with T. Are you telling him about your crush on him? I would be embarrassed so I am impressed if you are.
There are a couple sayings that come to mind reading your thread. They are:
1. You are not that powerful. (about controlling/making people do stuff)
2. The world doesn't revolve around you. (again, you don't control others. they will do stuff b/c of their issues)
I kept saying these things to myself whenever I felt that people did things based on my words/actions. I always had to remind myself of others free will and that whatever they did was a reflection of them, not me.
That sounds like a great talk with your sponsor. Good luck talking with T. Are you telling him about your crush on him? I would be embarrassed so I am impressed if you are.
There are a couple sayings that come to mind reading your thread. They are:
1. You are not that powerful. (about controlling/making people do stuff)
2. The world doesn't revolve around you. (again, you don't control others. they will do stuff b/c of their issues)
I kept saying these things to myself whenever I felt that people did things based on my words/actions. I always had to remind myself of others free will and that whatever they did was a reflection of them, not me.
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My only *advice* is try to be careful about being what you think your husband and son need you to be (sorry, I can't remember how old your son is, so maybe ignore that if he's on the younger side.) My own experience has taught me that if I am being the best version of myself FOR myself, then everyone else benefits residually, especially my husband and kids. I've been rushing around a lot less lately and suddenly my toddler has an easier time listening to me when I give her an instruction. Not rushing around makes me feel so much less stressed too.
I think it's so cool that you have a sponsor who is also a counselor! That's a pretty good 2 for 1 deal.
I think it's so cool that you have a sponsor who is also a counselor! That's a pretty good 2 for 1 deal.
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