Well I called and he's not in rehab...
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Well I called and he's not in rehab...
The Beav needed to be legally notified that the guadianship is underway, and what the heck I was curious so I called the place where he said he was going (I took him to a friend who was going to take him on to rehab).... and no Beav there.
So I called the friend and left a message and about an hour later The Beav called. No he's not in rehab...they wouldn't let him in...amd no he is not going to outpatient, but he is fine....QUACK!
I was basically speechless <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> (you would never know that here, right)...I wanted to tear into him about his responsibilities
but I was afraid that would cause him do something that would not be good for the GS...so I was choked for words and he hung up. I called the other Gramma so she would know his status and that is the end of it.
I am totally, 100% fine...there is not alot he can do that can hurt me anymore and honestly I am not suprised. The more time that passed, the more I felt like things were not as they seemed.
So the next time he calls me for a ride to rehab, or any thing else, what do you suppose my answer will be?
Each and every lie makes me more and more detached from him...and there is a much more important misson in our lives right now than him. His actions are almost funny in comparison...
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Peace amid the storm..
So I called the friend and left a message and about an hour later The Beav called. No he's not in rehab...they wouldn't let him in...amd no he is not going to outpatient, but he is fine....QUACK!
I was basically speechless <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="eek.gif" /> (you would never know that here, right)...I wanted to tear into him about his responsibilities
but I was afraid that would cause him do something that would not be good for the GS...so I was choked for words and he hung up. I called the other Gramma so she would know his status and that is the end of it.I am totally, 100% fine...there is not alot he can do that can hurt me anymore and honestly I am not suprised. The more time that passed, the more I felt like things were not as they seemed.
So the next time he calls me for a ride to rehab, or any thing else, what do you suppose my answer will be?
Each and every lie makes me more and more detached from him...and there is a much more important misson in our lives right now than him. His actions are almost funny in comparison...
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Peace amid the storm..
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I think sometimes that each lie and each disappointment adds a layer of skin to our reocvery, and that eventually we don't bruise as easily.
My son IS doing fine (today) in his recovery, and although I am truly grateful, and wish only the best for him in his life, and still pray every night that God will keep him safe, I am in a totally different place with it than ever before.
It's not that I am negative, it's that I took off the rose coloured glasses a long time ago and I now recognize that he may struggle with this the rest of his life. Well I'm a lot older than him and have lived too many years in HIS disease, and I fully indend to live my remaining years (and may they be long) in a better place.
And one of the reasons I am able to do that today, is because of the strength and example that I have learned from people like you.
God bless you and your entire family.
I think sometimes that each lie and each disappointment adds a layer of skin to our reocvery, and that eventually we don't bruise as easily.
My son IS doing fine (today) in his recovery, and although I am truly grateful, and wish only the best for him in his life, and still pray every night that God will keep him safe, I am in a totally different place with it than ever before.
It's not that I am negative, it's that I took off the rose coloured glasses a long time ago and I now recognize that he may struggle with this the rest of his life. Well I'm a lot older than him and have lived too many years in HIS disease, and I fully indend to live my remaining years (and may they be long) in a better place.
And one of the reasons I am able to do that today, is because of the strength and example that I have learned from people like you.
God bless you and your entire family.
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Thanks Anns,
I have been making it a point to do what I can and let he rest go...even to calling the Beav tonite. He needed to be notified..legally and morally, that guardianship was underway. And then I felt as tho I needed to give the other Gramma a heads up and now I let it go.
What a day...laughing at Ward and then now the Beav. And I am about even with how I felt when I woke up this morning. Not bad for an old beat up lady...right?
I loved your comment about "what are the odds we could BOTH be wrong?"....
Nite Nite... <img border="0" alt="[Kissy]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/Kissy.gif" />
I have been making it a point to do what I can and let he rest go...even to calling the Beav tonite. He needed to be notified..legally and morally, that guardianship was underway. And then I felt as tho I needed to give the other Gramma a heads up and now I let it go.
What a day...laughing at Ward and then now the Beav. And I am about even with how I felt when I woke up this morning. Not bad for an old beat up lady...right?
I loved your comment about "what are the odds we could BOTH be wrong?"....
Nite Nite... <img border="0" alt="[Kissy]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/Kissy.gif" />
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My sentiments exactly Ann, they may
be dealing with this for years, and I
accept it now. There's no more surprises
this way either J.T. It doesn't look
like recovery is in the near future
for either one of my kids (jail maybe),
and there's drugs in there-go figure.
There's a lesson here, and we are on
a journey to learn the lesson-so are
our kids. I'm 47 now, and I'm tired and
I want to live the remainder of my
years somewhat content and at peace. (Don't we all!)
I have this image of me meeting my
maker, and he asks "AND DID YOU LEARN
THE LESSON?" I think I'm going to be
on this earth for awhile. I know what
it all comes down to is GOD FIRST, we
just have to keep the faith!
I'm glad you are doing O.K.!
Hugs,
be dealing with this for years, and I
accept it now. There's no more surprises
this way either J.T. It doesn't look
like recovery is in the near future
for either one of my kids (jail maybe),
and there's drugs in there-go figure.
There's a lesson here, and we are on
a journey to learn the lesson-so are
our kids. I'm 47 now, and I'm tired and
I want to live the remainder of my
years somewhat content and at peace. (Don't we all!)
I have this image of me meeting my
maker, and he asks "AND DID YOU LEARN
THE LESSON?" I think I'm going to be
on this earth for awhile. I know what
it all comes down to is GOD FIRST, we
just have to keep the faith!
I'm glad you are doing O.K.!
Hugs,
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Just wanted to say thanks again to you, Ann. I guess that I never saw this as life long...but it very likely is.
This year has been quite a leap in my recovery...stops and starts...right? Knowing that when I am 80 and he is 57 (if we both live that long) we could still be doing this dance makes me want to take off the helmit (it gives me helmit hair, anyway) and stop dancing!
Isn't it amazing how He puts the words we need where we will see them (or hear them)...just at the right time?
Truly miraculous!
This year has been quite a leap in my recovery...stops and starts...right? Knowing that when I am 80 and he is 57 (if we both live that long) we could still be doing this dance makes me want to take off the helmit (it gives me helmit hair, anyway) and stop dancing!
Isn't it amazing how He puts the words we need where we will see them (or hear them)...just at the right time?
Truly miraculous!
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JT
I call it "live and learn...live and learn...live and learn". I wish I had listened more early in my recovery, I could have saved myself a lot of time and grief. But call me a slow learner...at least I keep studying.
My meetings, and learning to really work the 12 steps in my life, have truly been Godsends to me. And being able to come to this board and get rid of my baggage keeps my batteries charged.
But it does feel good to finally ACCEPT that I am powerless, and that I have a life worth living.
And I pray a lot. And then I discover the "miracles' that have always been there for me.
Thank you for being such an inspiration JT. It helps to share with someone who has been exactly where I am, and maybe in some strange way, our sons brought us together here.
I call it "live and learn...live and learn...live and learn". I wish I had listened more early in my recovery, I could have saved myself a lot of time and grief. But call me a slow learner...at least I keep studying.
My meetings, and learning to really work the 12 steps in my life, have truly been Godsends to me. And being able to come to this board and get rid of my baggage keeps my batteries charged.
But it does feel good to finally ACCEPT that I am powerless, and that I have a life worth living.
And I pray a lot. And then I discover the "miracles' that have always been there for me.
Thank you for being such an inspiration JT. It helps to share with someone who has been exactly where I am, and maybe in some strange way, our sons brought us together here.
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