Thinking of going to Alanon tonite,BUT
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Who needs Alanon when we've got PONY BABIES!!!!!!!!
That's it, I'm calling it. Pack up the SR Family and Friends Forum, and turn out the lights. I think maybe we've just solved the riddle of codependency: All is good with the world.
That's it, I'm calling it. Pack up the SR Family and Friends Forum, and turn out the lights. I think maybe we've just solved the riddle of codependency: All is good with the world.
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Is it true that As are not allowed in open meetings of Alanon? My AA sponsor told me I should go to a meeting or two but I never have.
Now a current using, drunk, A I understand being excluded, but I thought I could go to Alanon.
Now a current using, drunk, A I understand being excluded, but I thought I could go to Alanon.
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You're correct. Anyone can attend an "open" meeting (assuming they're not drunk at that moment). An A would be absolutely welcomed. In fact, we have a few RA's who attend my home group regularly, though they also have qualifiers that make them "double winners". If you have anyone in your family with a drinking problem other than yourself, mother, father, wife, husband, daughter, whatever, you'd be welcome anytime. You're sponsor was right. You should go. Good luck.
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I'm sorry, Tim56, but I don't think it would be. It kind of sounds like his reason for going is either to be purposefully antagonistic, or to get in the way of your recovery. If he truly just wants to know what the program is about you can bring him some literature from the meeting.
You could also suggest that the two of you attend an open AA meeting together. Not instead of you going to Alanon, but as well.
You could also suggest that the two of you attend an open AA meeting together. Not instead of you going to Alanon, but as well.
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I went to the meeting, just happens that they have it earlier on the last Tuesday of the month, so I missed it. But they had an AA meeting starting with a speaker and they asked me to stay. Both AA and Alanon people were there and I will be going again next week and AH will be going with me. They said he was welcome to come at any time to either meeting even if he has been drinking. Glad I went.
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I went to the meeting, just happens that they have it earlier on the last Tuesday of the month, so I missed it. But they had an AA meeting starting with a speaker and they asked me to stay. Both AA and Alanon people were there and I will be going again next week and AH will be going with me. They said he was welcome to come at any time to either meeting even if he has been drinking. Glad I went.
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Al Anon saved my sanity.
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I went to the meeting, just happens that they have it earlier on the last Tuesday of the month, so I missed it. But they had an AA meeting starting with a speaker and they asked me to stay. Both AA and Alanon people were there and I will be going again next week and AH will be going with me. They said he was welcome to come at any time to either meeting even if he has been drinking. Glad I went.

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Sorry for being all over the place with pony babies and double winners LOL
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I went to the meeting, just happens that they have it earlier on the last Tuesday of the month, so I missed it. But they had an AA meeting starting with a speaker and they asked me to stay. Both AA and Alanon people were there and I will be going again next week and AH will be going with me. They said he was welcome to come at any time to either meeting even if he has been drinking. Glad I went.
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I'm so glad you were able to make it to a meeting, and had an encouraging answer to your question. I was already starting to regret my last response to you. I reread it and thought it sounded a bit discouraging, and I certainly didn't want that to be the case.
It sounds like you found a very welcoming group. That's wonderful. I've gotten so much out of the program, I hope you do to.
It sounds like you found a very welcoming group. That's wonderful. I've gotten so much out of the program, I hope you do to.
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