Root Cause Analysis
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Hammer, I think you've been looking at yourself as the root cause of your problems till you've been blue in the face.
I think you've worked the steps with the thoroughness one can expect from someone with your background.
It seems kind of like... you've scraped and repainted and scraped and repainted that house for years -- and you're finally coming to the conclusion that it might just be time to tear it down?
YES we are part of the problem. But we're not the ENTIRE problem. If you "fix" yourself and the problem remains -- then the problem is not you.
I think you've worked the steps with the thoroughness one can expect from someone with your background.
It seems kind of like... you've scraped and repainted and scraped and repainted that house for years -- and you're finally coming to the conclusion that it might just be time to tear it down?
YES we are part of the problem. But we're not the ENTIRE problem. If you "fix" yourself and the problem remains -- then the problem is not you.
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Originally Posted by CodeJob 
NWGrits, I admire you two both working on it! I'm riding out with contempt for night raids...
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Originally Posted by NWGRITS
Now it looks more like: I need someone who is honest and open, shares my faith and my spirituality, respects my thoughts and feelings, who thinks I'm beautiful inside and out, and would go to the ends of the earth to be a godly husband for me, so long as I am a godly wife. Not want, but need. Big difference. If you don't have those things, you don't have anything.
Been there, myself.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...appy-list.html
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(where the map says I am heading)
To Love and Be Loved
Open and Truthful
Steady and Ordered
Gratitude
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Beginning to understand (as both the T and my Steps Sponsor have pointed out) . . . . that may not include Awtf.
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Originally Posted by CodeJob
Is she trolling for a new partner with that lie? Hopefully you have a POA to get custody of your kids? She knows you value them. I hope your God Airlines has a direct flight to good outcome.
Except the lawyer stuff.
Will not do that part online.
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Originally Posted by MissFixit
I mean this with great care and respect...you chose her . . . .
You really have to understand totally passive.
and you KEEP choosing her. Her issues are not your fault at all. You continuing the relationship is.
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Originally Posted by lillamy
Hammer, I think you've been looking at yourself as the root cause of your problems till you've been blue in the face.
I think you've worked the steps with the thoroughness one can expect from someone with your background.
It seems kind of like... you've scraped and repainted and scraped and repainted that house for years -- and you're finally coming to the conclusion that it might just be time to tear it down?
YES we are part of the problem. But we're not the ENTIRE problem. If you "fix" yourself and the problem remains -- then the problem is not you.
I think you've worked the steps with the thoroughness one can expect from someone with your background.
It seems kind of like... you've scraped and repainted and scraped and repainted that house for years -- and you're finally coming to the conclusion that it might just be time to tear it down?
YES we are part of the problem. But we're not the ENTIRE problem. If you "fix" yourself and the problem remains -- then the problem is not you.
While we should fully work OUR side of the street, we can ONLY work Our Side of the Street.
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