A message to you all
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A message to you all
Thank you all for your warm welcomes. I am amazed at how comforted I am by this message board. WOW!!! (This is only my second post, my second day)
I just found the post from Pernell that was awarded a spot in the "Best of Nar-anon". The "play" of an addict. I haven't even got all the way through it and I feel like the wool has been removed from my eyes. What an eye opener.
But I'm seeing that I am currently in Act II with my A. And possibly in a good position for recovery. NO EXPECTATIONS, I know, but this is when change can happen, right?
We have been investigating counseling together as a couple. My A hit a bottom before we were together and I really believe that I keep him above water (not sober) by being in his life. However, I know that this will not last forever. So I want to act now. I know that...wait, I have never asked if he would be interested in going to an AA meeting. This has been a subject that was off limits, so I've never asked. I assume that he would say no. But I did ask him if he knew what this disease DOES to him. He replied no, that it makes him drink. He doesn't know.
I plan to read WITH him this "play". No expectations. But with couseling already agreed upon, might this be a start?
Thank you all for being here. What a comfort it is to come here.
Just for Today...
Kristen
I just found the post from Pernell that was awarded a spot in the "Best of Nar-anon". The "play" of an addict. I haven't even got all the way through it and I feel like the wool has been removed from my eyes. What an eye opener.
But I'm seeing that I am currently in Act II with my A. And possibly in a good position for recovery. NO EXPECTATIONS, I know, but this is when change can happen, right?
We have been investigating counseling together as a couple. My A hit a bottom before we were together and I really believe that I keep him above water (not sober) by being in his life. However, I know that this will not last forever. So I want to act now. I know that...wait, I have never asked if he would be interested in going to an AA meeting. This has been a subject that was off limits, so I've never asked. I assume that he would say no. But I did ask him if he knew what this disease DOES to him. He replied no, that it makes him drink. He doesn't know.
I plan to read WITH him this "play". No expectations. But with couseling already agreed upon, might this be a start?
Thank you all for being here. What a comfort it is to come here.
Just for Today...
Kristen
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Join Date: Aug 2001
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Hello Riverrat,
Change can and does happen for addicts at any stage of addiction. There is simply no predicting what is "bottom" for someone else.
No absolutes, but it is generally a waste of good energy to try to participate in an addict's recovery. I don't think there's any harm in helping him find out what help is available when he has decided he wants help. Co-counseling sounds like a good place to start.
Hugs,
Smoke
Change can and does happen for addicts at any stage of addiction. There is simply no predicting what is "bottom" for someone else.
No absolutes, but it is generally a waste of good energy to try to participate in an addict's recovery. I don't think there's any harm in helping him find out what help is available when he has decided he wants help. Co-counseling sounds like a good place to start.
Hugs,
Smoke
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Join Date: Apr 2002
Location: Rocklin, CA USA
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Hi Kristen!
I read the play after I read your post. Dang! That was powerful. I actually cut and pasted it and emailed it to the A.
It's amazing when you read things like this that you so easily replace the "she" with you.
Thanks for pointing me towards it!
Peace!
Jenny
I read the play after I read your post. Dang! That was powerful. I actually cut and pasted it and emailed it to the A.
It's amazing when you read things like this that you so easily replace the "she" with you.
Thanks for pointing me towards it!
Peace!
Jenny
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