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Hello all,
Let's get back to the topic at hand. This is Rotz thread. If you want to debate and bandy about numbers, please take it to PM.
Rotz, how are you this morning? I'm glad that your husband has stated he's going to get treatment and hope that he follows through!!!
Please take good care of you through it all. Do you have big plans for the weekend?
Let's get back to the topic at hand. This is Rotz thread. If you want to debate and bandy about numbers, please take it to PM.
Rotz, how are you this morning? I'm glad that your husband has stated he's going to get treatment and hope that he follows through!!!
Please take good care of you through it all. Do you have big plans for the weekend?
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Maggie's... my husband was hardcore before he got sober 20 years or more ago, so they say. And here I thought I saw him at his worst. I sat and listened to him tell me how good he treats me than he ever treated his ex wife! So I called her and she told me, he's the same man he was to me! Evil, nasty and unpredictable! She told me things I already knew. It was mere weeks after his accident.
I don't know your husband at all. Only what you've posted. With that said, there is always hope the alcoholics in our lives will want to change and actually do so. The numbers are just very small. I was being conservative when I wrote 10%. I actually read its 3% for those who had long term sobriety and went back like my husband did. It's so sad Maggie's but you nor I will never have a hand in it. They will always have this disease even at their best and most sober!
I don't know your husband at all. Only what you've posted. With that said, there is always hope the alcoholics in our lives will want to change and actually do so. The numbers are just very small. I was being conservative when I wrote 10%. I actually read its 3% for those who had long term sobriety and went back like my husband did. It's so sad Maggie's but you nor I will never have a hand in it. They will always have this disease even at their best and most sober!
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Originally Posted by Seren 
Me? Bathing suit? In public? 
I'll just cheer everyone on from here......
I'll just cheer everyone on from here......
Plus I hear you make a great dip soooooo you are coming. And WHO is going to keep all us codies in line??
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I got to finally top it off and start the pump right before I left for work at 6pm.
I even made a new platform for the pump and filter.
I just have to recover from hanging upside down over the top rail for 6 hours yesterday trying to figure out that damn skimmer box! AUGH.... So glad it's done... *licks wounds* (blisters on hands from driving screws multiple times)
WHERE THE HELL IS MY FLOATY?!!!
I even made a new platform for the pump and filter.
I just have to recover from hanging upside down over the top rail for 6 hours yesterday trying to figure out that damn skimmer box! AUGH.... So glad it's done... *licks wounds* (blisters on hands from driving screws multiple times)
WHERE THE HELL IS MY FLOATY?!!!
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Originally Posted by HopefulinFLA
Wow Box, you're pretty handy!
Had to fix a leak under the kitchen sink because Hubby was drunk and didn't seem to care. I figured if it needs done, I better get to it! He did do some plumbing a month or so ago with no leaks. The main water line from outside that comes inside sprung a nasty leak! OMG there was water everywhere down stairs! lolHoping he will get better so he can join me in life. He's sober right now and it just boggles my mind to see him chose to be so sloppy and discusting but that's what he knows.
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Sloppy and disgusting sums it up well. I have that too. When I can manage to extract myself from the madness and just observe, it's quite a shame what they do to themselves. Such a waste of precious life.
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It is a waste! I asked him today, Don't you feel so much better sober?! He said YES! It just makes me scratch my head as to why he would get on a perpetual drunk and stay there. It's total madness!!!
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He's been sober since I last posted and is going to counseling. He likes his new therapist and I like her too. She gives him this look when she thinks he's pulling her leg. He has me sitting in which I don't mind. She doesn't seem to mind either. I keep quiet and let them do all the leg work and if he's not being totally forthcoming, I give him a nice firm push! Then she digs deeper and he's all for it. I told her yesterday, You know what his problem is? She asked me, What? I said, He never got his a$$ beat and that's what he really wanted growing up! Someone to beat his a$$ because he never came home on time, or didn't clean his room, or sassed back someone. So she asked him and he admitted it! He's got a lot of emotional and mental pain tearing him apart that comes from his childhood and that hurts him more than the a$$beating ever would have. That pain seeps out of him every time he finds his way into a bottle. He's going to have to find a way to deal with that. He told her he has me to help him and frankly, I'm too effin tired, unqualified and unprofessional to help his sorry soul. I love him dearly but I'm not a therapist. I'm his wife. That's all I wanna be to him. We can talk through a ****** day but that's about it...
Then she digs deeper and he's all for it. I told her yesterday, You know what his problem is? She asked me, What? I said, He never got his a$$ beat and that's what he really wanted growing up! Someone to beat his a$$ because he never came home on time, or didn't clean his room, or sassed back someone. So she asked him and he admitted it! He's got a lot of emotional and mental pain tearing him apart that comes from his childhood and that hurts him more than the a$$beating ever would have. That pain seeps out of him every time he finds his way into a bottle. He's going to have to find a way to deal with that. He told her he has me to help him and frankly, I'm too effin tired, unqualified and unprofessional to help his sorry soul. I love him dearly but I'm not a therapist. I'm his wife. That's all I wanna be to him. We can talk through a ****** day but that's about it...
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