X-CON A UPDATE
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Join Date: Jun 2002
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X-CON A UPDATE
Hi everybody;
Just here with an update. The night of my last posting my A finally called (he's been out of jail for 2 weeks). It was an okay conversation, an hour long actually, but I was totally able to tell that he is no where near recovery. For example, he has NO plan for what he is going to do now. I mean, he did have 5 months and 2 weeks to think about it... I didn't get the resolve that I thought I would from the conversation - you were right Smoke (in alot of ways actually) I think I do place his opinion in regard. Not so much about ME but I feel like he hasn't realized, or dealt with, that he lost the best thing that will ever happen to him. I guess part of me needs to hear that he is regretful of everything that happened and he knows he screwed up. But he hasn't taken responsibility for anything he's done so why start now. He is the exsistential VICTIM.
Anyway, fortunately after our divorce is final July 22nd, I won't ever have to see/speak to him again. Like I said, he is no where near recovery which means he is just going to continue to hurt those around him.
Thanks again for the support!
Just here with an update. The night of my last posting my A finally called (he's been out of jail for 2 weeks). It was an okay conversation, an hour long actually, but I was totally able to tell that he is no where near recovery. For example, he has NO plan for what he is going to do now. I mean, he did have 5 months and 2 weeks to think about it... I didn't get the resolve that I thought I would from the conversation - you were right Smoke (in alot of ways actually) I think I do place his opinion in regard. Not so much about ME but I feel like he hasn't realized, or dealt with, that he lost the best thing that will ever happen to him. I guess part of me needs to hear that he is regretful of everything that happened and he knows he screwed up. But he hasn't taken responsibility for anything he's done so why start now. He is the exsistential VICTIM.
Anyway, fortunately after our divorce is final July 22nd, I won't ever have to see/speak to him again. Like I said, he is no where near recovery which means he is just going to continue to hurt those around him.
Thanks again for the support!
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
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I do believe that God paints us pictures so we can see the answer right in front of our face. After everthing, you finally spoke to him, and the picture you saw was "More of the Same" if you continued with this man.
Take a deep breath and plan ahead for some wonderful things in your life. Because you are a terrific person and deserve wonderful things and have them you will. Plan some fun stuff that you haven't done for about 120 years, and do it. Even little stuff, call a friend and drive to the country and have a picnic, go to the zoo (stay away from the duck pond), plant a garden - even a tiny one - and rejoice in its beauty. Just have fun!! And don't look back, you've been there long enough.
I do believe that God paints us pictures so we can see the answer right in front of our face. After everthing, you finally spoke to him, and the picture you saw was "More of the Same" if you continued with this man.
Take a deep breath and plan ahead for some wonderful things in your life. Because you are a terrific person and deserve wonderful things and have them you will. Plan some fun stuff that you haven't done for about 120 years, and do it. Even little stuff, call a friend and drive to the country and have a picnic, go to the zoo (stay away from the duck pond), plant a garden - even a tiny one - and rejoice in its beauty. Just have fun!! And don't look back, you've been there long enough.
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