FireSprite

Christina, I'm sorry to read this thread this morning. It certainly sounds like an exhausting weekend.

I admit I don't know the full details of your story, but I wish you well in YOUR recovery so that you can minimize your involvement in these types of situations in the future. I know firsthand what your exhaustion & emotional fatigue feel like today but I can't help but think how unneccesary it is for you to have to go through this for your EX. Like CodeJob, I'm wondering what are you getting out of these interactions, how is it healthy for YOU?

I hope you find time for yourself today & give yourself the same kindness you are showing him. I agree with the others that he is a grown man capable of making his own decisions & reaching for out for help (not just from you) when he's ready.

christinastar10

911 his family showed up and helped out. They packed all his stuff up and he will be living with them. He won't be living alone anymore.

9111111

That's very good to know. What about your friends and family - anyone around to give you a hug and be there for you?

hopeful4

Praying for both of you. God Bless.

christinastar10

911,

I have a few friends that will listen but one friend who has been by my side the whole time. She's like my second mother. Family has never been supportive in any situation. I see my therapist in a few days. That will help me alot.

Florence

When my AH suffered consequences from his drinking, he would create a mental health, come-to-Jesus crisis to generate fear and sympathy around him, which took away from the fact that he just lost another job or otherwise got himself in trouble.

SiRiDiPiTi

Hey Christina **{hugs}} I'm sure your exhausted and the last 24 hours must've been draining. I do hope you take some time for yourself today or tomorrow... get some shopping therapy in or whatever makes you smile!

Some posters here can be a bit harsh, but I know it's because they are well into their "recovery" from being a doormat and just hate to see the rest of us making the same silly/stupid mistakes they know can't lead us anywhere positive for US. I don't have much advice because I'm struggling myself to stay strong, but just wanted to say it's okay to love and care... just don't lavish it on someone who won't acknowledge it tomorrow.

Seren

I'm glad to know that he and you are both OK, Christina. I hope that he will really want help, and I hope that you will find some peace just for you.