It's about me.
It's about me.
Last night I was at home watching a movie and just relaxing it was about 8ish. I was so exhausted mentally and physically from my week I had no energy .
Legal mate comes over unannounced opens the door and the chaos begins. The dogs are jumping and anxiety in the house begins.
He begins to start asking me if I'm over him?
He's been thinking and wanting to know what I want to do?
Am I seeing anyone ?
Wants to know what I have been doing
Why am I not answering his calls or text messages and he can tell I have gotten stronger
. . . all these questions in about 2 minutes. I didn't answer anything
I looked at him and told him " Look I am tired and watching a movie minding my own business and you want to back me into a corner with this questions"
His whole demeanor changes and he apologizes. I looked at him and told him I want to finish watching my movie.
I couldn't believe I had so much control over me and what I wanted to do in a situation like this.
I stopped and chose not to answer his questions. I chose to finish watching the movie I just bought.
Legal Mate sat there and sulked. Then afterwards I told him I was tired and going to bed and thank you for coming over be careful driving home. He tried to act like he was falling asleep. I told him he better go home before he gets even more tired.
Wow. . I woke up this morning feeling strong and happy that I can see it's not about him it's about me.
Thank you for listening.
PS. I wanted to also add its amazing to look back and think how much years I spent trying to save this dead marriage and all the shame and guilt I went through just to end up with the same results with an addict
Legal mate comes over unannounced opens the door and the chaos begins. The dogs are jumping and anxiety in the house begins.
He begins to start asking me if I'm over him?
He's been thinking and wanting to know what I want to do?
Am I seeing anyone ?
Wants to know what I have been doing
Why am I not answering his calls or text messages and he can tell I have gotten stronger
. . . all these questions in about 2 minutes. I didn't answer anything
I looked at him and told him " Look I am tired and watching a movie minding my own business and you want to back me into a corner with this questions"
His whole demeanor changes and he apologizes. I looked at him and told him I want to finish watching my movie.
I couldn't believe I had so much control over me and what I wanted to do in a situation like this.
I stopped and chose not to answer his questions. I chose to finish watching the movie I just bought.
Legal Mate sat there and sulked. Then afterwards I told him I was tired and going to bed and thank you for coming over be careful driving home. He tried to act like he was falling asleep. I told him he better go home before he gets even more tired.
Wow. . I woke up this morning feeling strong and happy that I can see it's not about him it's about me.
Thank you for listening.
PS. I wanted to also add its amazing to look back and think how much years I spent trying to save this dead marriage and all the shame and guilt I went through just to end up with the same results with an addict
I recognized about myself that I seem to blow things off even if there are alarms going on in my head. I am having a hard time with it.
It's hard for me to pat myself on the back when I feel strong and then the next second feel horrible for feeling strong. I have to remind myself it's ok I have the right to be happy and make decisions.
I am so use to knowing if I am happy not to get to happy because he will quickly make it stop.
Thank you Honeypig- The old me would of just answered and the arguing begins but decided not to. I simply didn't care he wanted to talk. I talked for years and it got me no where.
It fit me to a tee and made me think of those here who helped me learn how to let go.
No I haven't said anything to him since I was going no contact.
Job is another story now. It was good the first 2 weeks now I don't know. But am thankful I have a job.
Just quickly my boss is a RAH that curses everyone out and is very unpredictable. He actually looks like my AH just older
Its a very hostile environment so I am looking for another job. Its sad when the employees want the boss to die and have told you.
Had I not been learning so much about myself and not feeling so selfish. I am learning to choose life on my own terms now. I am very appreciative of that.
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