Family Court Tomorrow
 

Hi all

Well, I guess that tomorrow I'll either be listening to my soon to be ex wife telling the court what a lousy parent I was for letting her look after our children whilst she was drunk, or
I'll be listening to her tell the court that she doesn't drink and I'm a crazy child snatcher!
Or, she will agree to mediators recommendation of sharing the care of our daughters, as we do now.

It's been about five months now since I chucked my wife out the house, she was very drunk and abusive, an awful lot of the time, for about three years, and I think I did the right thing.
Things have definitely been better for our children these last months, I have no reason to believe she gets drunk when looking after our girls now, they call each day that she has them, and she also calls and leaves a voicemail each night they stay over, so I know that she is sober.
I guess things are better for my stbexw, she seems happy, has new guy, new house, new life I suppose.
For me, well after a year in al Annon rooms, councilling, therapy, self help books, lots of time on here, dates with new girls, I'm Not really sure? I still have good days and bad days, happy days and sad days, etc.

I obviously didn't really ever want to be in this place, but it's a better place to be than where I was a year ago.

Best of luck in court.
Glad things have improved.
No need to put a time limit on how you should or should not feel, go with it & given time you will heal.

Good luck in court! I wish the best for you.

And congratulations on putting you and the kids first. That is amazing.

:You_Rock_

Wishing you continued strength and all my best, Dave1977w.

Sending encouragement and support!

good luck! one more step in the process done. It does seem more difficult for us spouses than the As to recover/move on. Maybe our emotions were much more invested in the relationship than the spouse, fits my bill anyway.
Awesome that the kids are doing well!

Good luck!!! I hope things go as smoothly as possible!

Positive thoughts coming your way.

Thanks for the update. Good luck to you!

Wishing you a peaceful court day tomorrow.

Thank you for the update, Dave! I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible in court.

Good luck today, Dave!!

Good luck, Dave - and please let us know how it goes today.

You will continue to have good days and bad days, but at least your days are real now. There's no more pretending, no more quiet despair, no more walking on eggshells.

Hugs!

Sending strength, courage, and patience for today, Dave!

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending lots of hope and good wishes your way!

Thanks all

Went ok, no court order issued, but judge will approve our arrangements on 30th April once the paperwork has been signed and sent in. So hopefully no more court days!! And arrangements with the children seem fair to everyone given the circumstances.

Not a great end to the marriage, but hey, not a great marriage either. Hopefully the future will seem bright soon.
And who knows, I may even get married again one day!

Hi Dave, Be gentle with yourself today. Sometimes the finality of the legal system will trigger a deep reflection and emotions you thought you handled bubble back... Hugs.

Thanks, yeah I guess it all comes back to mind again.
We are not quite at the end, but a another step closer.
Think positive and Keep busy for me!

Hey Dave,

It definately sucks being on this end of the deal. We are powerless over the addict/alcoholic and their destruction is more than what appears on the surface.

They seem to move on to seemingly happier times while we seem to be part of the floating debris that follows in their wake.

Don't let the destruction of the past rob you of an awesome future, amigo.

I'm of the belief that God doesn't permit what we can't handle.

You're in my prayers. Peace be with you.