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Welp, we've been at each other for over a week, and it all blew up the other night. Badly. He showed me who he is - again - and I finally listened.
I am desperate to find a place to live, and this town SUCKS for that. Its a college town, insanely expensive and I have 3 pets to boot. Oh I'm watching my sisters dogs for a week also, so I can't just split to a friends yet.
I am positive, and have a GREAT outlook right now. Hurt, but just feel free. Please send me prayers / good vibes / ect to find a place FAST. Being there is miserable, and semi hostile.
I am having a hard time not beating myself up for starting a relationship with an A, for staying with an A for 2 years longer than I should have, and for trying again after last summer when I wanted to leave. I'll get through that and eventually let it go - but that will be MUCH EASIER in some new digs, and with some peace.
Thank you all - it wouldn't have happened this way without you. xoxox
I am desperate to find a place to live, and this town SUCKS for that. Its a college town, insanely expensive and I have 3 pets to boot. Oh I'm watching my sisters dogs for a week also, so I can't just split to a friends yet.
I am positive, and have a GREAT outlook right now. Hurt, but just feel free. Please send me prayers / good vibes / ect to find a place FAST. Being there is miserable, and semi hostile.
I am having a hard time not beating myself up for starting a relationship with an A, for staying with an A for 2 years longer than I should have, and for trying again after last summer when I wanted to leave. I'll get through that and eventually let it go - but that will be MUCH EASIER in some new digs, and with some peace.
Thank you all - it wouldn't have happened this way without you. xoxox
firebolt---your local DV center will have lots of information at their fingertips that can be of help to you. I suggest that you just give them a call and explain your situation to them. You will find them to be very supportive and willing to help. It is a sign of good mental health to ask for help when you need it.
Domestic Violence Contact Number---1-800-799-SAFE
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Domestic Violence Contact Number---1-800-799-SAFE
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I wish - she lives 2 hours away, or I would jump on that!
I have all my feelers out - the local paper and craigslist are defeating. I looked at a place yesterday with 80 applicants...yeah. Hoping word of mouth gets me in somewhere quick.
Dandylion - by hostile, I just meant seriously angry - hes back and forth between completely ignoring me and just making seriously snotty comments. You know, drunk as hell and saying how selfish, ignorant and evil I am. Quack Quack...oh well that just makes this all easier on me, and reaffirms this move. Abuse none the less, but at this point, I think he's in more danger than me
I have all my feelers out - the local paper and craigslist are defeating. I looked at a place yesterday with 80 applicants...yeah. Hoping word of mouth gets me in somewhere quick.
Dandylion - by hostile, I just meant seriously angry - hes back and forth between completely ignoring me and just making seriously snotty comments. You know, drunk as hell and saying how selfish, ignorant and evil I am. Quack Quack...oh well that just makes this all easier on me, and reaffirms this move. Abuse none the less, but at this point, I think he's in more danger than me
I am having a hard time not beating myself up
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don't stay where he is right now.
Can you call in sick to work for next 3 days and go stay at your sister's? I think you need to be the heck out of dodge. This is kind of a family emergency if you want to phrase it that way.
Can you call in sick to work for next 3 days and go stay at your sister's? I think you need to be the heck out of dodge. This is kind of a family emergency if you want to phrase it that way.
3 days in a different town will just make it so i cant keep searching for a place. UGG and I just got word that really my only lead wont be open until July.
Trying to just breathe. And think of plans B and C.
Right now - handing it over to my HP - he HAS to know that this is for the best, right?!
Trying to just breathe. And think of plans B and C.
Right now - handing it over to my HP - he HAS to know that this is for the best, right?!
Thanks Recovering, I just feel SO TRAPPED which sucks because all I want to do is FINALLY take action like THIS SECOND. Trying not to get down, but slightly panicking. Trying to trust, and yes - detaching for sure! Thanks everyone.
Thanks Lillamy! I don't qualify for anything low income, and the 2 that I just called that don't say income regulated said the only openings they have are for low income - even though they list some that are not low income. WTH?!
I don't suppose your sister could take your pets while you find a month-to-month lease to tide you over? 3 pets can be a lot to handle in addition to one's own, and I know you'd miss them terribly, but is that an option?
the only openings they have are for low income
The right place WILL appear. It did for me. I know it will for you too!!!
Mike - when we moved in together, he wanted us to both buy the house. I've done that with another boyfriend, BIG MISTAKE and said no - I'll just rent from him. So the house is his unfortunately.
Sparklekitty - I can't even find one that won't take pets. This town is just awful for renters. My parents could take my cats - that helps, but still no luck. It's seriously in a rental crisis.
I even sent my resume today to 3 companies in my parents town 2 hours away. I can't stand that city, but I'll take what I can get at this point, and they have rentals. This would mean i'm leaving my job of 9 years, and my home town of 20 years just to escape this madness...and I'm willing to do it.
I know, Lillamy - its crazy!! They are basically saying i have to make less money to rent the same apartment as others that make more. Frustrating. I'm trying to keep the faith!
Sparklekitty - I can't even find one that won't take pets. This town is just awful for renters. My parents could take my cats - that helps, but still no luck. It's seriously in a rental crisis.
I even sent my resume today to 3 companies in my parents town 2 hours away. I can't stand that city, but I'll take what I can get at this point, and they have rentals. This would mean i'm leaving my job of 9 years, and my home town of 20 years just to escape this madness...and I'm willing to do it.
I know, Lillamy - its crazy!! They are basically saying i have to make less money to rent the same apartment as others that make more. Frustrating. I'm trying to keep the faith!
firebolt---you don't have to be physically abused to contact dv centers---verbal abuse counts, also!! If you let them know that he is an alcoholic and the abuse is escalating to the point that you have to get out--but, safe housing for you and your pets is a problem.
They have resources that are not always available or known to the general public. You can't lose anything by talking to them. So many people do not get help that is available because they assume that they don't qualify.
dandylion
They have resources that are not always available or known to the general public. You can't lose anything by talking to them. So many people do not get help that is available because they assume that they don't qualify.
dandylion
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