He's dead :(
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Thanks for all the well wishes everyone.
I am definitely sad today and I am noticing some lingering anger too. Strangely enough I am feeling some sense of closure as I see his life was not destined to get any better and nothing I could have done would have made him stop drinking. I hope I can find an appropriate way to say good-bye. The monster of alcoholism is such a senseless beast.
I am definitely sad today and I am noticing some lingering anger too. Strangely enough I am feeling some sense of closure as I see his life was not destined to get any better and nothing I could have done would have made him stop drinking. I hope I can find an appropriate way to say good-bye. The monster of alcoholism is such a senseless beast.
You are right, it is senseless. I can understand the anger, and the closure. It is so sad that some people never ever realize that alcoholism is a life threatening disease. So many times they never realize it or when they do it's too late.
You did not cause it, and you are right, there is nothing you could have done.
I send you big hugs and hope you contine to move forward and have closure.
God Bless!
You did not cause it, and you are right, there is nothing you could have done.
I send you big hugs and hope you contine to move forward and have closure.
God Bless!
Thanks for all the well wishes everyone.
I am definitely sad today and I am noticing some lingering anger too. Strangely enough I am feeling some sense of closure as I see his life was not destined to get any better and nothing I could have done would have made him stop drinking. I hope I can find an appropriate way to say good-bye. The monster of alcoholism is such a senseless beast.
I am definitely sad today and I am noticing some lingering anger too. Strangely enough I am feeling some sense of closure as I see his life was not destined to get any better and nothing I could have done would have made him stop drinking. I hope I can find an appropriate way to say good-bye. The monster of alcoholism is such a senseless beast.
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Even though you've moved on, that had to be tough news. I'm so sorry Ziggy. I remember your struggle dealing with the fact that he worked across the street from you. His struggle is over, sadly, his family and loved ones are left to deal with a senseless loss. Sending you (((hugs))).
Wow, Ziggy. It's still a shock no matter how much we see them self-destruct, no? I am so glad that you weren't with him anymore when this happened. It would have probably been a very complicated grief experience. I imagine you will still grieve, but that there is a larger degree of detachment and acceptance maybe. Wow. I'm very sorry for everyone's loss involved. Keep doing your good stuff.
Hang in there Ziggy.
As hard as it is for those of us left behind, sometimes death is the only freedom from the pain and torment of addiction.
I lost my ABF a couple of years ago. Very mixed emotions regarding his passing, and there are memories of better times which I do hold dear. But, the point he had reached before he got sick was literally a living death already. Leaving this world was a release for him, and for me.
Hugs to you.
As hard as it is for those of us left behind, sometimes death is the only freedom from the pain and torment of addiction.
I lost my ABF a couple of years ago. Very mixed emotions regarding his passing, and there are memories of better times which I do hold dear. But, the point he had reached before he got sick was literally a living death already. Leaving this world was a release for him, and for me.
Hugs to you.
how heartbreaking ~
May he rest in peace now ~ finally free from this awful disease ~ prayers of comfort for all who love him.
take good care of you and try not to let the "what if's" take away today's serenity.
gentle pink hugs
May he rest in peace now ~ finally free from this awful disease ~ prayers of comfort for all who love him.
take good care of you and try not to let the "what if's" take away today's serenity.
gentle pink hugs
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Wow, Ziggy. It's still a shock no matter how much we see them self-destruct, no? I am so glad that you weren't with him anymore when this happened. It would have probably been a very complicated grief experience. I imagine you will still grieve, but that there is a larger degree of detachment and acceptance maybe. Wow. I'm very sorry for everyone's loss involved. Keep doing your good stuff.
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