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Old 03-04-2014, 01:56 AM
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Very sorry to hear that xxx
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Old 03-04-2014, 05:30 AM
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It's nice to 'see' you again, Ziggy, though I am sorry for the circumstances. I hope that you are doing well and moving forward. Wishing you clarity and peace.
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Old 03-04-2014, 05:33 AM
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Old 03-04-2014, 07:07 AM
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Old 03-04-2014, 07:49 AM
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So very sorry to hear this. Sending you a hug

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Old 03-04-2014, 08:00 AM
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Thanks for all the well wishes everyone.

I am definitely sad today and I am noticing some lingering anger too. Strangely enough I am feeling some sense of closure as I see his life was not destined to get any better and nothing I could have done would have made him stop drinking. I hope I can find an appropriate way to say good-bye. The monster of alcoholism is such a senseless beast.
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Old 03-04-2014, 08:17 AM
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You are right, it is senseless. I can understand the anger, and the closure. It is so sad that some people never ever realize that alcoholism is a life threatening disease. So many times they never realize it or when they do it's too late.

You did not cause it, and you are right, there is nothing you could have done.

I send you big hugs and hope you contine to move forward and have closure.

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Thanks for all the well wishes everyone.

I am definitely sad today and I am noticing some lingering anger too. Strangely enough I am feeling some sense of closure as I see his life was not destined to get any better and nothing I could have done would have made him stop drinking. I hope I can find an appropriate way to say good-bye. The monster of alcoholism is such a senseless beast.
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Old 03-04-2014, 09:46 AM
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I am so sorry, Ziggy.
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Old 03-04-2014, 09:52 AM
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Old 03-04-2014, 01:36 PM
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Old 03-04-2014, 01:55 PM
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So sorry Ziggy. It's so sad.
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Old 03-04-2014, 02:03 PM
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Even though you've moved on, that had to be tough news. I'm so sorry Ziggy. I remember your struggle dealing with the fact that he worked across the street from you. His struggle is over, sadly, his family and loved ones are left to deal with a senseless loss. Sending you (((hugs))).
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Old 03-04-2014, 05:34 PM
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Wow, Ziggy. It's still a shock no matter how much we see them self-destruct, no? I am so glad that you weren't with him anymore when this happened. It would have probably been a very complicated grief experience. I imagine you will still grieve, but that there is a larger degree of detachment and acceptance maybe. Wow. I'm very sorry for everyone's loss involved. Keep doing your good stuff.
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Old 03-05-2014, 03:14 AM
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Hang in there Ziggy.

As hard as it is for those of us left behind, sometimes death is the only freedom from the pain and torment of addiction.

I lost my ABF a couple of years ago. Very mixed emotions regarding his passing, and there are memories of better times which I do hold dear. But, the point he had reached before he got sick was literally a living death already. Leaving this world was a release for him, and for me.

Hugs to you.
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how heartbreaking ~

May he rest in peace now ~ finally free from this awful disease ~ prayers of comfort for all who love him.

take good care of you and try not to let the "what if's" take away today's serenity.

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Old 03-05-2014, 11:22 AM
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Wow, Ziggy. It's still a shock no matter how much we see them self-destruct, no? I am so glad that you weren't with him anymore when this happened. It would have probably been a very complicated grief experience. I imagine you will still grieve, but that there is a larger degree of detachment and acceptance maybe. Wow. I'm very sorry for everyone's loss involved. Keep doing your good stuff.
Thanks for this, LightInside. It was an extremely painful breakup but I am glad I was able to get some distance before this happened, I would have probably died myself if he did this while I was with him. Right now I need to work on letting go of the past again but this reminder was just so sad. I am working on my own way of grieving, not sure if I want to go to the memorial service. His friends were not too keen on me and I'm sure there will be lots of drinking involved for them.
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