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Happy Birthday Hopeful! Don't let him or anyone else ruin this special day! Do something fun, spoil yourself, go to a spa, buy yourself something nice, or go to a fancy restaurant.
All the best wishes, and hugs
All the best wishes, and hugs
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Thanks everyone for your kind words.
I'm feeling a little better about things today. Even though I've been telling myself relapse is always a possibility, I wasn't as prepared as I thought. I just kind of panicked last night, seeing him drunk brought me right back to the nervous anxious mess I was when he was still drinking. Wow, I really do need to work on me some more. It's not good to let someone else's actions affect me so profoundly.
I'm feeling a little better about things today. Even though I've been telling myself relapse is always a possibility, I wasn't as prepared as I thought. I just kind of panicked last night, seeing him drunk brought me right back to the nervous anxious mess I was when he was still drinking. Wow, I really do need to work on me some more. It's not good to let someone else's actions affect me so profoundly.
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Originally Posted by HopefulinFLA 
Thanks everyone for your kind words.
I'm feeling a little better about things today. Even though I've been telling myself relapse is always a possibility, I wasn't as prepared as I thought. I just kind of panicked last night, seeing him drunk brought me right back to the nervous anxious mess I was when he was still drinking. Wow, I really do need to work on me some more. It's not good to let someone else's actions affect me so profoundly.
I'm feeling a little better about things today. Even though I've been telling myself relapse is always a possibility, I wasn't as prepared as I thought. I just kind of panicked last night, seeing him drunk brought me right back to the nervous anxious mess I was when he was still drinking. Wow, I really do need to work on me some more. It's not good to let someone else's actions affect me so profoundly.
I doubt this will be a popular sentiment, but I too viewed relapse as a possibility. As the relapse(s) happened and I found out more information about addiction and alcoholism, I began to view a relapse with high probability rather than a mere possibility. I don't write that to be negative, but instead realistic. If you want to be with someone who has this aliment, then managing your expectations is important to do for your sanity.
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Hi Hopeful,
I hope you were able to enjoy your birthday!
This is the gold standard. Something that is easier said than done, in my experience. We allow ourselves to hope that it's all over...when it's never really all over even for those in long-term recovery. My stepson recently relapsed because I guess he hasn't realized that his condition requires life-long maintenance and vigilance.
I hope your husband picks himself back up quickly. Hang in there!!
I hope you were able to enjoy your birthday!
It's not good to let someone else's actions affect me so profoundly.
I hope your husband picks himself back up quickly. Hang in there!!
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Originally Posted by MissFixit
Hugs to you! You will get through this.
I doubt this will be a popular sentiment, but I too viewed relapse as a possibility. As the relapse(s) happened and I found out more information about addiction and alcoholism, I began to view a relapse with high probability rather than a mere possibility. I don't write that to be negative, but instead realistic. If you want to be with someone who has this aliment, then managing your expectations is important to do for your sanity.
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