The other side of this is even if somehow you did work it all out.

When it happens again, it will be remembered and recorded that it was "ok" this time.

It goes on and on and on . . .

The blog of Cynical One (upper blue bar labeled "blogs') has many articles on relationships which you might look at. Many here have resolved to end unhealthy relationships yet found ourselves staying far longer than was good for us. The articles could help your thinking. Good luck. Good-enough mental health and sobriety is not too much to expect of a partner.