hopeful4

I would say deep down he knows what he did was crap and this is his own way of justifying it in his own mangled thought process. Lying to yourself can be just as powerful as lying to someone else. He is doing what he has to do to get through the day. I am not condoning this, just my opinion.

That being said, you are trying to follow the though process of someone who clearly has judgement issues and issues in their own thinking. You will never be able to rationalize that type of behavior...thank goodness. It would be alarming for you if you were able to...you don't want to be able to process that type of lifestyle.

Good for you for being there for your children and doing what you have to do. Keep working on you. Hugs.

NYCDoglvr

I suggest letting it all go ... you've made progress in your life, the divorce is final so why let him live rent-free in your head? Nothing he does is relevant to you any longer. Why people do things no one knows.

KateL

Another American word I have learned from here is Asshat. I love it