And the beat goes on
Grace Under Fire
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2002
Location: Another world
Posts: 536
And the beat goes on
Hi all,
My youngest son IS being evicted due
to too much partying, cops swarming the
place, fugitive at his place. He said
the other day, "I thought I could move
back home and save for a car". And I
said "Well, that sounds good for you,
but WHAT ABOUT ME?" Then my oldest called last night, (he's back home with
wife and kids), that the other day he
was drinking and ran into a old acquaint
ance that owed him money. He chose to
punch the guy in the mouth, (this is
nothing new), and cut his hand wide open
on the guys tooth (nothing new). He has
been hospitalized numerous times for
this, (a tooth is poison), and spent
5 days in the hospital the last time,
he almost lost his hand. Anyway, I was
very calm and told him all I could do is
encourage him to seek some type of recovery, and that it hurts me to see
him hurt himself and others due to his
drinking and drugging. Also that he was
very lucky he wasn't arrested, this would
have been Strike 2, and I didn't think
I was up to anymore prison visits. Anyway, this is all on him, I told him
there was hope but he would have to be
sick and tired before he takes that step.
This kid of mine has numerous scars all
over the head and face from altercations
through the years, baseball bats, drunk
driving accidents, he was shot in the
chest at 17, and in intensive care for
9 days. He lost a ear but thankfully it
was reattached. Anyway, I think you see
the picture here. I was watching TV
yesterday, this lady did this intensive
study on criminals and brain damage due
to blows to the head, so I just wonder.
I have been praying, and I'm doing O.K.,
I'm on my way to celebrate his birthday
and Father's Day. Of course, I'm going
to check out his hand, (he did not go to
the doctor, scared.) I even thought to
myself this wouldn't be such a bad thing
if he lost his hand. Everyone would be
safe, and that is my basically my only
issue through this storm-safety.
Today is going to be a good, fun, day.
Hugs,
My youngest son IS being evicted due
to too much partying, cops swarming the
place, fugitive at his place. He said
the other day, "I thought I could move
back home and save for a car". And I
said "Well, that sounds good for you,
but WHAT ABOUT ME?" Then my oldest called last night, (he's back home with
wife and kids), that the other day he
was drinking and ran into a old acquaint
ance that owed him money. He chose to
punch the guy in the mouth, (this is
nothing new), and cut his hand wide open
on the guys tooth (nothing new). He has
been hospitalized numerous times for
this, (a tooth is poison), and spent
5 days in the hospital the last time,
he almost lost his hand. Anyway, I was
very calm and told him all I could do is
encourage him to seek some type of recovery, and that it hurts me to see
him hurt himself and others due to his
drinking and drugging. Also that he was
very lucky he wasn't arrested, this would
have been Strike 2, and I didn't think
I was up to anymore prison visits. Anyway, this is all on him, I told him
there was hope but he would have to be
sick and tired before he takes that step.
This kid of mine has numerous scars all
over the head and face from altercations
through the years, baseball bats, drunk
driving accidents, he was shot in the
chest at 17, and in intensive care for
9 days. He lost a ear but thankfully it
was reattached. Anyway, I think you see
the picture here. I was watching TV
yesterday, this lady did this intensive
study on criminals and brain damage due
to blows to the head, so I just wonder.
I have been praying, and I'm doing O.K.,
I'm on my way to celebrate his birthday
and Father's Day. Of course, I'm going
to check out his hand, (he did not go to
the doctor, scared.) I even thought to
myself this wouldn't be such a bad thing
if he lost his hand. Everyone would be
safe, and that is my basically my only
issue through this storm-safety.
Today is going to be a good, fun, day.
Hugs,
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
Hi Josie
Like Smoke said, when we step back and watch, they really are on a merry-go-round. But we don't have to hop on, and good for you for holding your feet steady.
That's quite a story, and I am sure it has been a rocky road for you, but you are an inspiring example of what working our program can do for us.
Thank you for sharing this story, and thank you for sharing your recovery with us.
Hope you have a great fun day.
Like Smoke said, when we step back and watch, they really are on a merry-go-round. But we don't have to hop on, and good for you for holding your feet steady.
That's quite a story, and I am sure it has been a rocky road for you, but you are an inspiring example of what working our program can do for us.
Thank you for sharing this story, and thank you for sharing your recovery with us.
Hope you have a great fun day.
Member
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: Butler Pa
Posts: 77
Wow Josie!!!
Good Going! That is the key. .just keep putting the dilemma back on the addict. we do not have to get in the mix. It is a great relief isn't it.
When I am tempted to get back involved I just picture myself throwing up my hands (like in a hold-up
) and saying to myself. .HANDS OFF !!
As the saying goes in the rooms. Keep coming back it works if you work it. .so work it you're worth it!
God Bless All Mo <img border="0" alt="[Thumb]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/thumb.gif" />
Good Going! That is the key. .just keep putting the dilemma back on the addict. we do not have to get in the mix. It is a great relief isn't it.
When I am tempted to get back involved I just picture myself throwing up my hands (like in a hold-up
) and saying to myself. .HANDS OFF !! As the saying goes in the rooms. Keep coming back it works if you work it. .so work it you're worth it!
God Bless All Mo <img border="0" alt="[Thumb]" title="" src="graemlins/../graemlins/thumb.gif" />
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Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Cleaverville
Posts: 2,898
Thanks for sharing Josie. You just can't get involved with their nonsense...life is way too short...and do you know what? I haven't punched any one lately so jail is not something I have to worry about...Someone asked me once "Is your name in the sentence??" If not it is not your problem.
I think it was OG's who said....Hands up....STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!...STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!....STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!...STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!
I think it was OG's who said....Hands up....STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!...STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!....STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!...STEP AWAY FROM THE ADDICT!!
Grace Under Fire
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2002
Location: Another world
Posts: 536
Hi all,
I did have a good day Sunday, we had
a great dinner and I bought a Baskin-
Robbins ice cream cake. My son's hand
does not look good, I encouraged him
to go to the doctor. Hands off of that
one too, if it gets bad enough-he will
go. This has been going on for 16 years
now, I started MY recovery 5 months ago,
and I am making PROGRESS, slow, baby
steps. I had a huge anxiety attack when
my son was getting violent with his
wife and the kids were there, this is a
hard one for me. I know this is all
going to come to be taken care of one way
or another, and here is a quote that I
love, "I can turn my "A's" over to God.
I can allow them the dignity of managing
their own addiction without help or
interference from me. God has a plan
for my children and me. Keep the faith
and allow his plan to unfold."
Hugs to all,
I did have a good day Sunday, we had
a great dinner and I bought a Baskin-
Robbins ice cream cake. My son's hand
does not look good, I encouraged him
to go to the doctor. Hands off of that
one too, if it gets bad enough-he will
go. This has been going on for 16 years
now, I started MY recovery 5 months ago,
and I am making PROGRESS, slow, baby
steps. I had a huge anxiety attack when
my son was getting violent with his
wife and the kids were there, this is a
hard one for me. I know this is all
going to come to be taken care of one way
or another, and here is a quote that I
love, "I can turn my "A's" over to God.
I can allow them the dignity of managing
their own addiction without help or
interference from me. God has a plan
for my children and me. Keep the faith
and allow his plan to unfold."
Hugs to all,
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
Josie
Ilove that quote too. And the "HANDS OFF BACK UP".
Boy are they both good things to memorize and say to ourselves often.
Those baby steps have taken you a long way - don't look back...just keep moving forward.
Ilove that quote too. And the "HANDS OFF BACK UP".
Boy are they both good things to memorize and say to ourselves often.
Those baby steps have taken you a long way - don't look back...just keep moving forward.
Grace Under Fire
Thread Starter
Join Date: May 2002
Location: Another world
Posts: 536
M.G.,
Don't give me too much credit, It's
tough, and I'm just keeping my head
above water! Practice, practice, practice, like I do alot of self-talk.
I know that I have to Let Go, I know
that I am powerless, I know that I have
to mind my own business, I know that
when I am focussed on someone else, I
cannot focuss on myself. I am working
on compassion also, I refuse to kick
my kids when they are down, they don't
need me to tell them anything, and
THANK YOU GOD, now I don't. Whew! It's
alot work, but I swear I'm going to
make it.
Don't give me too much credit, It's
tough, and I'm just keeping my head
above water! Practice, practice, practice, like I do alot of self-talk.
I know that I have to Let Go, I know
that I am powerless, I know that I have
to mind my own business, I know that
when I am focussed on someone else, I
cannot focuss on myself. I am working
on compassion also, I refuse to kick
my kids when they are down, they don't
need me to tell them anything, and
THANK YOU GOD, now I don't. Whew! It's
alot work, but I swear I'm going to
make it.
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Josie,
I never thought of self talking in that way. I'm going to try that. They say if you tell yourself something over and over it will change your thinking patterns.
We have to make new pathways,
Hugs,
Mg
And, I give you a lot of credit, you deserve it.
I never thought of self talking in that way. I'm going to try that. They say if you tell yourself something over and over it will change your thinking patterns.
We have to make new pathways,
Hugs,
Mg
And, I give you a lot of credit, you deserve it.
Supply Manager
Join Date: Feb 2002
Location: Cleaverville
Posts: 2,898
Today driving home I was chanting the Serenity Prayer over and over again. It works for me. If I can just get a handle on what I can and cannot control...and if I say the prayer enough times and apply it it seems to calm me.
The slogans and prayers are there for a reason...
And Josie...5 months?...you go girl! You are doing so great! I think Josie deserves a newcomer award!
(((((Hugs)))))
The slogans and prayers are there for a reason...
And Josie...5 months?...you go girl! You are doing so great! I think Josie deserves a newcomer award!
(((((Hugs)))))
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