I told him
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I told him
So I told AH that I am done. I can't get over the infidelity and I can't have a romantic relationship with him anymore. He is sad, but understands. As far as money is concerned, there is no way he could move out right now. I am a SAHM and I'm still in school. Plus we have tons of credit card debt. So we are going to be roommates. He is moving down to the basement, and in the spring he will move out to our lake house.
Hopefully this will help. I just want to feel better. I want to be able to eat again, and not have my stomach in a constant knot. I'm hoping that actually coming to this decision and telling him will bring me some peace, and that I can start to heal, even if we will be in the same house for a while. I will continue with my AA and Al-Anon meetings, as well as therapy. I have faith that everything will work out as it is supposed to. I could sure use some hugs and prayers though.
Hopefully this will help. I just want to feel better. I want to be able to eat again, and not have my stomach in a constant knot. I'm hoping that actually coming to this decision and telling him will bring me some peace, and that I can start to heal, even if we will be in the same house for a while. I will continue with my AA and Al-Anon meetings, as well as therapy. I have faith that everything will work out as it is supposed to. I could sure use some hugs and prayers though.
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SomewhereElse, I would expect you to start to feel "better", now that you have a general direction. Not being in limbo should give you more of a feeling of control over your own welfare.
Now, for lowering the bar of expectations of him. That will lower your stress level, also. That is a way of detaching.
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Now, for lowering the bar of expectations of him. That will lower your stress level, also. That is a way of detaching.
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((((Somewherelse)))) I think you will start feeling better just by taking some control of your situation. You are doing this for yourself and child/children. Take care of yourself. Treat yourself to something special 
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Huge Hugs and Many Prayers coming your way!!!!
It has to be relief to not expect that physical relationship from yourself. Good for you for being open and honest and at least it is not some horrible tension for you both.
Keep posting, we are holding your hand every step of the way!
It has to be relief to not expect that physical relationship from yourself. Good for you for being open and honest and at least it is not some horrible tension for you both.
Keep posting, we are holding your hand every step of the way!
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