Katchie

I thank you all who responded to my last thread on lies. I'm reading chapter 10 of Codependent No More where Melody writes, "the surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other peoples business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs."
I agree with that to some extent, but where I have issue is when a spouse is lying because the spouse isnt just some other person. Does this phrase apply to lies?
I'm really trying to work up the courage to ask him about it tonight; I've never been great at confronting him about anything.

dandylion

Katchie, i think it helps to remember that the rules that apply in a fairly healthy, non-addicted marriage, often don't apply to a marriage with an active alcoholic.

In addiction--you are trying to cope with an "abnormal" situation (relationship)--so, many of the rules that we were taught to live by--go out the window.

dandylion