Son off to prison It didn't take very long. I looked him up online and he was being shipped off to his home prison already. I assume it will be the one he was at but who knows? I have mixed feelings about it all. He will have to travel a ways to court for his current charges because he currently incarcerated for parole violation. I'm still tempted to get a lawyer because the law is not fair. I know what my son did was wrong but the reality is the court system is not what it seems. I told the police that I will not answer any more questions concerning him. They are turning my life upside down the same way my son has. |
So, what you're saying is... you may or may not get a lawyer, but you can't bail him out now? I'm on a venn diagram kick tonight. It might help to make one regarding getting him a lawyer, or not getting him a lawyer - for your son and yourself. I think in this situation it may be the job of the venn diagram, or listen to your heart... or your brain. I'm not sure. I just don't think I could provide any useful advice that would help you on whether or not to hire a lawyer at this point. I do, honestly hope you find peace. I wish things had been different. |
Rhodesland, but should I volunteer information to the police? I will not do that and may just get a lawyer myself if they keep bothering me. My son is locked up and I get that. But why keep bothering me for information? I'm finished talking to them and will be talking to my father who is a attorney. |
I understand what has happened is traumatic. No one should have to experience. But arguing here over whether to get a lawyer or not is not helpful - we've seen this conversations play out. I can't see another locked thread helping you. But what I want to know is: How are you holding up? How are you feeling? Are you okay? How well have you been handling the emotional distress of the situation? People are here for you. |
Originally Posted by Upsetnneedhelp
(Post 4249943)
Rhodesland, but should I volunteer information to the police? I will not do that and may just get a lawyer myself if they keep bothering me. My son is locked up and I get that. But why keep bothering me for information? I'm finished talking to them and will be talking to my father who is a attorney. |
Rhodeisland, I let them search the house once. I'm done with it. I'm done with dealing with them. They are nasty to me & I'm not the criminal! This makes me mad at my son also. He's being shipped off to prison yet I have to deal with his aftermath. This is something I believe many of you do not realize, the law is not always fair. |
What has the law done to you? |
Originally Posted by RhodeIsland
(Post 4249964)
What has the law done to you? |
I understand full well the issues with America's prisons system and "war on drugs". I'm not here to debate that, and I don't like being thrown in with "You people" - it's an offensive thing to say. I asked what the law has done to you. The police can ask you questions, but you're under no duty to answer their calls, or open the door for them - or even talk to them if they visit. (without a search warrant). You're choosing to interact with the police at this point - just tell them you won't be answering any more questions, and if they want to push the issue you'll have to be subpoenaed. If you don't know anything of your sons criminal interactions let them know - but do not lie to the police. Dont Talk to Police - YouTube Assert your rights. |
It baffles me that many of you live with alcoholics and addicts yet think it's okay. Maybe it not as extreme (yet) but the disease is progressive and I am proud to know that my son is a serious addict. I hear the words "functional alcoholic" and it doesn't make sense. How can a person be functioning AND an alcoholic. Many of you dress up the problem and the sad truth is that it is much worse than you realize. At least I can admit and be at peace at where my son is. |
We are a minority family that grew up on the wrong side of the tracks. Rhodeisland, you just don't get the whole philosophy of the "police are always right". I am proud to say that my son never got a DUI. I hear that offense all the time and I am just amazed as how much people minimize it. |
Originally Posted by Upsetnneedhelp
(Post 4249976)
It baffles me that many of you live with alcoholics and addicts yet think it's okay. Maybe it not as extreme (yet) but the disease is progressive and I am proud to know that my son is a serious addict. I hear the words "functional alcoholic" and it doesn't make sense. How can a person be functioning AND an alcoholic. Many of you dress up the problem and the sad truth is that it is much worse than you realize. At least I can admit and be at peace at where my son is. I'm glad you're at peace. |
Originally Posted by Upsetnneedhelp
(Post 4249979)
We are a minority family that grew up on the wrong side of the tracks. Rhodeisland, you just don't get the whole philosophy of the "police are always right". I am proud to say that my son never got a DUI. I hear that offense all the time and I am just amazed as how much people minimize it. However, your sons issues have not been caused by the police. He's chosen to be a violent offender - even in a free society, he would not be a functioning member. I'm sorry that is the case. Perhaps one day he will choose sobriety and be able to enter society and interact with others on a voluntary basis. |
Rhodelisland, if that is the area you are from than I can understand your lack of intelligence regarding police matters. It's okay I guess it's a regional thing. My sons incident with the police is just another day in the East Chicago/Gary area I am from. My son was a real alcoholic by the time he finished high school. I got him into multiple rehabs and it just didn't work. He progressed to hard drugs & that is something that many alcoholics progress to. |
Bless Your Heart |
Originally Posted by Upsetnneedhelp
(Post 4249962)
Rhodeisland, I let them search the house once. I'm done with it. I'm done with dealing with them. They are nasty to me & I'm not the criminal! This makes me mad at my son also. He's being shipped off to prison yet I have to deal with his aftermath. This is something I believe many of you do not realize, the law is not always fair. when family and friends came to visit they were sometimes treated as if they were criminals some of these ones in authority just let it all go to their head it's too bad sometimes ones with sick EGO's get these positions don't blast me here my father was a cop for many years and then promoted to Asst. Chief of Police and yes he was one of the good cops that treated others as he wished to be treated himself on good nights when the cops would come to my house because I was playing my drums to loud and, they would ask me if they could come in and look around I would say "no thank you" and shut the door in their face for you Upsetnneedhelp I recommend you use the "no thank you" approach next time the cops come a knocking at your door Mountainman |
Originally Posted by RhodeIsland
(Post 4249997)
Bless Your Heart |
mountainbob, yes when I visit my son I am treat as a criminal. I am subject to a search and everything. The funny thing was because my son was in maximum security it was behind 2 inch thick glass. I couldn't even hug or kiss him goodbye. :( Many here do not realize what a maximum security institution is like. |
Originally Posted by Upsetnneedhelp
(Post 4250012)
( Many here do not realize what a maximum security institution is like. but I do know that it's a very hard place even for a visitor to get into takes a lot of time - right possibly long lines with much waiting when I was having visits if a visitor who had waited for a long period just to see me had to use the rest room during the visit the visit was over just think the long drive there a good wait a visit with your locked up friend or loved one and no use of the bathroom for visitors someone thought that up just to make visitors suffer Mountainman |
who's side are we on ?? PS best not to give the authorities any more help than ((you really have to)) your son will hold a great resentment towards you later if you do Mountainman |
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