whiskeyman

grab a Big Book and read the TO WIVES section.
and yes i do understand that this section can apply to both sexes
but I think it will help tremedously

Hammer

or give comic relief.

But for real -- Big Book Online . . . here >>>

Big Book Online Fourth Edition

CarryOn

SpouseRecovery...I'm sorry this has happened, but I think it is good that you have stood your ground with him. I'm learning that one of the best things we can do (as codependents) is to enforce the boundaries we set. We must follow through on the things we say we are going to do otherwise we teach the A's in our lives that they can walk all over our boundaries.

I'm not sure that I would be overly concerned about a criminal record...I would anticipate it will get dropped. Yes, he'll have some court & legal fees to deal with it, but these are the consequences of HIS actions, not yours. These are appropriate consequences to breaking a door knob and threatening the security of a home with a sledgehammer, regardless of who's home it is.

foolsgold66

Really sorry this happened. But it could be that he found the bottom and wants to dig for a while. Some do....

Have a life without him. That doesn't mean you give up hope for him, just have your own life...

SpouseRecovery

He's still digging. As soon as he was released from jail, he broke into my house (technically still his too until court date) and is refusing to leave. He knows now that the sheriffs can't force him out unless he is otherwise breaking a law.

foolsgold66

Oh my. I have no clue as to suggest what you might do or not do now. I'm sure some other F&F will be along shortly with some advice.

SpouseRecovery

He can't find his bottom. He is now threatening to kidnap my daughter and disappear.

suki44883

Oh no! I am so sorry he is being such a huge jerk about this. Is there any place you and your daughter can go for a while? If you need items from the house, the police can escort you to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid while you get your things.

Have you considered contacting the domestic abuse hotline? What you are dealing with IS abuse and they can give you a lot of helpful information and it's never a bad thing to have information.

Advocates are available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) in over 170 languages. All calls are confidential and anonymous.

Their website: The National Domestic Violence Hotline | 24/7 Confidential Support

I just wish I could give you a huge hug right now. ((((HUG))))

FireSprite

Oh my , what an escalation. I'm so sorry & I can't imagine how on edge you must be today.

Are you documenting the threats, the texts, etc? It sounds like he is getting very desperate since you haven't given in & taken him back as quickly as he'd like. Maybe he isn't able to function without that codependent aspect & he's hit the limit to how much he can white-knuckle through.

All I can suggest is that the more he says/quacks - the more you need to DO/take action to protect yourself & your daughter in every way; financially, etc. Sending lots of strength your way today!

SpouseRecovery

My ah is doing fine. I have accepted his behavior and I am taking him back thank for the support

SpouseRecovery

My AH has hacked my account and replied as me above!

Hammer

from the horror movies . . . ..

GET OUT OF THE HOUSE.

From the prior line-up it sounded like he was working towards suicide-by-cop.

Seren

Please stay safe, SpouseRecovery. I highly recommend immediately changing your password, always logging out, clearing your computer's cache everytime.

Sending hugs and prayers for your safety.

ResignedToWait

To piggyback that...if this account was compromised, it's likely any online accounts you have are also able to be gotten into by him. Take appropriate precautions.

MsPINKAcres

Please be safe in all areas - not just in on-line ~ maybe seek help from outside resources

wishing you & your family the best

pink hugs