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Old 10-06-2013, 03:28 PM
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Choosing not to care...

Today my AH left here at 10:00am with an old army buddy to go to a football game. He said he prefered to go with someone that like sports, I get that I hate sports. His buddy is a drinker too... So, that might have something to do with it. AH hasn't had a drink in 40 days, so we'll see..

But, today, I just don't care. I cooked an amazing stuffed pasta dish, pre-made some snacks for the week, spent some quality time with my daughter, we did her hair and nails, I read, I went shopping... And didn't give my husband another thought. If he gets drunk, so be it... I'm having fun without him.
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Old 10-06-2013, 03:35 PM
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I actually wrote that post at 4:00pm, but somehow it didn't submit ...

He came home very shortly thereafter, both of them sober, which is great... But I still didn't care. He and his buddy are taking over the great room with more football and burgers, and I'm letting him have some space. I am happy in my office/den with my music and my iPad.

I'm not sure if that is detachment or just giving him space...
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Just sounds like you're doing your thing, he's doing his and you're both content. Sounds nice and conventional.

Really feel like eating pasta now!
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I love that! It's such a gift to reach that place where another person's actions don't define your own happiness. It sounds like you had a perfect day. Way to go.
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I think its both. You gave him space to do whatever he was going to do, and you recognized that his decisions were his own to make. Glad you had a great day.
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