m1k3

I was reading an article on the Zen concept of detachment and it was really good. I have paraphrased it a bit to get rid of the Buddhist-speak and maybe add a little Al-Aonese.

Real detachment is not about detaching from your emotions or thoughts or; other people, places and things. It's about detaching from your expectations.

That seemed to me to be the clearest explanation I have read on detachment.

Your friend,

Tuffgirl

Very good explanation, Mike.

Another one I like in regards to expectations:

High expectations = Resentment

marshy13

Hi m1k3,

Thanks for sharing..
Do you have a link to the Buddhist bit too?

readerbaby71

absolutely!

m1k3

Nope, don't have the link anymore. Try googleing zen detachment, there were several articles that were pretty good.

AnvilheadII

reminds me of my old AA sponsor, Sponsor Bob....he's mantra was:

it is what it IS, isn't it?

lillamy

I'm reading a book right now that started by introducing the idea of RADICAL ACCEPTANCE - eh oh is pretty much what Anvil's sponsor said: you have to start by accepting things as they are - not as they may be at some point in the future, God willing, not as you WOSH they were... As they are. Forget whose fault it is that the base is broken, stop wishing it wasn't, just accept the condition of things. That's where you have to begin to get healthy - stop dreaming and pretending that reality is different.