Update on custody battle
 

Hi SR friends.
Thank you all for your recent support.
My lawyer is at present preparing my defence & wishes to include reference to XH's drug use.
Although I feel this is going to start a war between us maybe it really is necessary to get all the necessary information out there.
Why do I even feel I want to hide it?
Maybe it's because I've dealt with the past & have moved on & don't want to go back to facing those issues?
Maybe it's because I'm in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic & I don't wish him to be dragged through it? He now has 7 months sober - yay.
Maybe I'm afraid of the confrontation of XH in mediation or court?
Maybe I'm scared he'll spread lies about me to the court?
I've been upfront & honest about things with my lawyer.
I admitted my own drug use 61/2 years ago & how I self referred myself to rehab (all recorded at hospital) & how I've never looked back & will never return to drugs. I am more than happy to have a hair follicle sample done.
I start my court counselling today.
I would like my SR friends to pray & support me through this.
I have been a good Mum & my kids are excelling.
I must trust in my higher power now.
Thanks for listening.

You are right to be honest and if it means war, there's nothing worth going to war over more than the safety and well-being of your children. :grouphug:

You can do this Rosie. I know it is scary but you will get through this because you are a good, strong mom to those kids.
You are in my thoughts. Sending hugs and lots of support.
MamaKit

This:
My word of advice (and I do feel like this is one place where I can give some without violating forum rules) is: Take. Good. Care. Of. Yourself.

Make sure you get enough sleep. Make sure you eat even if you only have to view it as refueling (if you don't feel like eating). Make sure you go out and get fresh air. A walk. Breathe deeply. Listen to music that lifts your spirits.

I'm saying this because custody fights can be marathons. And you have to pace yourself. But you can do it. You absolutely can. Lawyer on your side, truth on your side, you've got nothing to fear.

Thank lillamy.
I am really healthy at the moment, just have to watch my stress levels.
I eat healthy & I workout regularly & get to bed as early as I can.
I've made my focus my health for almost 1 year now, mostly thanks to SR & focussing on myself.
If there was ever a time to fight this then this would be it.
Very draining mentally I know.

I agree with Suki. The safety and wellbeing of your kids is one of the best reasons to go to war. Fare well my friend xxx