LifeRecovery

Follow up question.

Were you interested in going for a ride with her in any way shape or form?

That early in the whole thing I get myself into trouble sometimes by agreeing to something I am not that interested in....because I don't check in with me, and because I am doing it to save someone else's feelings.

ZenMe

You have a good point, as in checking in before pulling the trigger. If I had thought it was a date I would have said no. For a ride sure.

Interest level 0 being none, 5 being yes wow, I was probably a 3.

LifeRecovery

For me that would help to solidify where things started to go askew....and where next time I might need to approach things different.

m1k3

Zenme, look at it this way. It was a learning experience, you handled it the best you could at the time. You didn't set out to embarrass her or hurt her feelings or anything, you were just escaping your discomfort with the situation.

So, there is no reason to feel guilty. It happened and it's over. It was a life's lesson on it's ok to own your own boundaries and feelings and it's ok to express them without guilt.

Your friend,

fourmaggie

maybe i am young and not to much as a codependent as i think i am...

but i dont see anything wrong what he did in ASKING, I have this done all the time and never expected more that just two friends going for a ride
....she did the expectations, not him...
i asked some other friends on this...and said the same thing, but my mom, however, felt it should have been more clearer...maybe this is an age thing?

yes, he reacted poorly...lesson learned...