Rosiepetal

Hi SR Family
So I met with my lawyer this morning to start to file my defence as kids Dad wants joint custody after 61/2 years.
I didn't hide a thing & did bring in about drugs issues in past & why XH fled to another country.
Now I have a load of paperwork to prepare, legal aid papers, copies of texts & notes & the court is wanting me to come to counselling so I need to fit that in too.
I am working, raising a family, my eldest daughter is in a lead role at a performance tonight & tomorrow I am travelling out of town after work so I take my youngest to her gymnastics competition.
I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed.
I've tried hard to be a good Mum over the years.
I believe in myself but I really hope my higher power & God trust in me too.
I've moved forward with my life & my children are excelling.
Right now dragging up all the past for discussion just brings it all back.
Need a hug.

wicked

You are a good Mum. No doubt about that.

I understand Rosiepetal, having to go over all that again, but I am sure you will
handle it just have you have been handling ever other obstacle that has come up.

********{rosiepetal}}}}}

Big hugs for you.

I hope he is like most addicts and when the reality of all the work involved
with court starts to interfere with his lifestyle, he will lose interest.

Beth

I believe in you too, Rosiepetal. No doubts about your HP and God.

brownhorse

I understand completely! My worst fear is XAH takes me to court and tries to get back some custody. Big hugs your way.

Rosiepetal

I went out to watch my eldest in her lead role in a performance tonight.
She was awesome. I am very proud of her.
People came up to me & told me how proud I must be & how well she'd done.
She had so many supporters there, wow.
Her Dad & partner & son were there & although that was uncomfortable for me it could not take anything away from watching my girl perform.
What I did have a problem with is my mother going over to chat with XH at half time & then after the show my mum, dad & brother all went over & shook my XHs hand & chatted to him.
Wow, I though they were my support people! I am very disappointed that I am staring down the face of a custody court battle & my immediate family are acting like it's just fine.
I'm sorry but I don't get that.
The main thing is that I believe in myself, my best friend believes in me & my RABF believes in me.
Rant over.
Still a proud as Mum.

Tuffgirl

Hugs from me, Rosie. Stay strong!

Have you asked your folks why they are being friendly toward your ex? They may have motivations you don't know about...

SparkleKitty

Hugs, Rosie. You're such a good mom. Doesn't matter what anyone else does.

Wavy

My Dad's Mum stayed on good terms with my A Mum after they divorced, still going to visit her and talking to her on the phone. My Dad didn't like it, but it was good for us kids for our family not to fall so totally apart just because our parents had separated. Both sets of my grandparents still get on with each other despite their children's divorce, which again is nice for us. The custody battle is between you and your XH, not your family and your XH, its up to them what terms they want to be on with him but them being friendly to him doesn't mean that they don't support you. If you feel like you would be able to have a fruitful conversation with them about it then you can honestly tell them how it makes you feel and find out from them how they feel about the whole situation and you might end up understand each other a bit better

lillamy

Big. Fat. Hugs.

Dragging up the past is draining. You can do this. The fastest way to the other side is straight through, as a friend of mine kept reminding me during my divorce process.

You will feel bad, anxious, terrified, sad, but it's just feelings. Feelings can be uncomfortable but they're nothing but a chemical in your head. They don't tell you how you must act.