The Grief came pouring out
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The Grief came pouring out
My cat is missing for 24 hours. And it's as if this incident just broke my emotional back. The tipping point. The sobbing and grief I feel is like a tidal wave. My daughter had a brain injury 5 months ago, (she is greatly improved), my EX-AB reconciled for two weeks, the broke it off via email; and now my cat is gone. Come f'ing ON universe!
I have been angry at the exAB for the last 3 plus weeks. Sadness/grief...a bit...but I just wasn't there yet. Anger keep me working, functioning, biking, living life...kind of normal.
Then my Callie Bear, my 14 year cat is gone. She was attacked by an off the leash dog Friday. The dog came on our property with a Contractor and ran into our garage where my Callie was chillin'. He didn't physically hurt her, but scared her possibly to death. The contractor did other unprofessional things, including bringing his dog onto my property, so he didn't get the bid. And now Callie is gone.
And I am becoming unglued. I can't stop crying; over my EX-AB, my sick daughter, and now my missing Callie Bear. It's all coming down. hard.
Thanks for listening.
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Carrie
I have been angry at the exAB for the last 3 plus weeks. Sadness/grief...a bit...but I just wasn't there yet. Anger keep me working, functioning, biking, living life...kind of normal.
Then my Callie Bear, my 14 year cat is gone. She was attacked by an off the leash dog Friday. The dog came on our property with a Contractor and ran into our garage where my Callie was chillin'. He didn't physically hurt her, but scared her possibly to death. The contractor did other unprofessional things, including bringing his dog onto my property, so he didn't get the bid. And now Callie is gone.
And I am becoming unglued. I can't stop crying; over my EX-AB, my sick daughter, and now my missing Callie Bear. It's all coming down. hard.
Thanks for listening.
Love/hugs,
Carrie
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well sure.
I would be upset, too.
It is EASY to get an Alcoholic, but a Good Cat is hard to find, let alone one with 14 years seniority. That is a real loss.
Hope you find her. Best to you.
You have checked all the little cubby holes? I had a cat get stuck down a concrete block in a garage. Pulled him out by his tail. Turned out fine. Good cat.
I would be upset, too.
It is EASY to get an Alcoholic, but a Good Cat is hard to find, let alone one with 14 years seniority. That is a real loss.
Hope you find her. Best to you.
You have checked all the little cubby holes? I had a cat get stuck down a concrete block in a garage. Pulled him out by his tail. Turned out fine. Good cat.
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I just realize with her missing; it's unplugging stored up grief. What is the record for sustained crying? I don't subscribe to the theory that crying releases pain and heals. It just feels crazy to me.
Callie is not on the premises...i have checked every nook/cranny. My daughter is coming over with flyers, I have spoke with all my neighbors, and I will check the animal shelters tomorrow.
Hammer Quote:"It is EASY to get an Alcoholic, but a Good Cat is hard to find, let alone one with 14 years seniority. That is a real loss."
Truth to that Hammer.
Callie is not on the premises...i have checked every nook/cranny. My daughter is coming over with flyers, I have spoke with all my neighbors, and I will check the animal shelters tomorrow.
Hammer Quote:"It is EASY to get an Alcoholic, but a Good Cat is hard to find, let alone one with 14 years seniority. That is a real loss."
Truth to that Hammer.
Hoping you find your cat SOOOOON, nbay!! I would be beside myself if one of my houndies was AWOL.
My mom's cat was "lost" for over a MONTH and eventually returned, dirty and thin, but healthy otherwise, long after my mom had given up hope.
I really hope yours doesn't make you wait that long!
My mom's cat was "lost" for over a MONTH and eventually returned, dirty and thin, but healthy otherwise, long after my mom had given up hope.
I really hope yours doesn't make you wait that long!
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egads...i feel dehydrated from tears. My daughter came over to be with me and put up flyers. What a sight...mother/daughter walking around the neighborhood putting up flyers...with intermittent tears. I got Callie Bear for her when she was 10.
Oh nbay, I am so sorry. I really feel like if she has only been gone two days and was scared into leaving, that she will find her way home soon. I would keep calling her name. She could be within ear shot, hiding.
Big fat bear hugs and hopes that Callie Bear is hiding out and waiting to make sure that nasty dog is really gone!
You know, grief hits at weird times and are triggered by strange things. But this isn't strange to me. I'm sure your cat has been a great source of love and cuddles and strength for you during the upheaval you've been going through. I'd feel sad, too.
You know, grief hits at weird times and are triggered by strange things. But this isn't strange to me. I'm sure your cat has been a great source of love and cuddles and strength for you during the upheaval you've been going through. I'd feel sad, too.
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Hope you find her - my cat hid in the sock drawer for 3 days once, and I had posted ads all over the darn city looking for him.
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You hit the nail on the head...having Callie go missing when I am trying to be so strong with "No Contact" with the XAB and also being a source of strength to my daughter; well it just took that last bit of stoicism and all the grief hit me at once. Thank you so much for understanding.
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That is exactly right. It feels unbearable. At other times, I would be more reasonable; giving Callie a few more days to come home; being more steady. But I have just become unglued being in the third week of No Contact with the XAB. Just lying in bed weeping. Egads.
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Thank you so much everyone. She still has not returned. Her disappearance leaves me with such lack of closure; is she dead, is she lost and scared, is she hiding, is she at a shelter (I will be calling today), is she with a nice family?.
This feeling really triggered the recent abrupt break up with the XAB - It was so sudden; no answers only questions spinning in my mind.
Then grief
This feeling really triggered the recent abrupt break up with the XAB - It was so sudden; no answers only questions spinning in my mind.
Then grief
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