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What's ironic is that one of our favorite shows is "American Greed". I'm at work right now just giggling my butt off. Its so unreal and I will have some good stories once I'm out of this.
Thank you all for your support. SR and al anon have helped me a lot.
Thank you all for your support. SR and al anon have helped me a lot.
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Originally Posted by rry1177 
I don't know how much $ I've given. I'm not ready to count it up. Its over $10k. I don't believe it myself.
you did what you knew at the time.
You do not have to give him one more thing.
Not one red cent.
I do not know what the total is of the money I have given away,
sometimes in the hope it will change someone, or they will do what
they said, or anything.
Now, I must remember not to give any more away.
It builds resentments on both sides.
(In my case anyway, resent me, but need me, otherwise they would
have to DO something for REAL.)
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Originally Posted by rry1177
What's ironic is that one of our favorite shows is "American Greed". I'm at work right now just giggling my butt off. Its so unreal and I will have some good stories once I'm out of this.
Thank you all for your support. SR and al anon have helped me a lot.
Thank you all for your support. SR and al anon have helped me a lot.
I watch that show all the time!
It is a great show.
Usually they catch the bad guy?
Maybe I am thinking of another show.
I just saw one, where a woman would marry older men,
actually give them medication to keep them "docile".
And then empty out their bank accounts.
These people, some of them, have no conscience.
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money can't buy me love (hey that's a song) or happiness.
but it makes it much easier to survive comfortably. Would he help you to the the tune of giving you 10K? if he actually worked? Would he take care of you and support you if you were sick and unable to work? could he shoulder the financial obligations? would he help you support your son? pay loans off?
you can stop the bleeding and start the scab forming today. no more gas $$, no more freebies, you can make him uncomfortable enough to seek another way to exist. practice saying NO with a smile.
but it makes it much easier to survive comfortably. Would he help you to the the tune of giving you 10K? if he actually worked? Would he take care of you and support you if you were sick and unable to work? could he shoulder the financial obligations? would he help you support your son? pay loans off?
you can stop the bleeding and start the scab forming today. no more gas $$, no more freebies, you can make him uncomfortable enough to seek another way to exist. practice saying NO with a smile.
Behold the power of NO
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That does not sound foolish at all 
I don't know if you are in Al Anon or trying to recover in another way but it sounds like solid first step work to me about how your life has become unmanageable
I could relate to your list, been there too when it comes to enabling
I don't know if you are in Al Anon or trying to recover in another way but it sounds like solid first step work to me about how your life has become unmanageable
I could relate to your list, been there too when it comes to enabling
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