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Old 07-17-2013, 06:59 AM
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Man, I must have gotten replies from 20 people all wanting it. I am trying to go in the order of the replies, but after the first five I basically said I will get back to you in a day or two if I still have it. Finally edited the listing to say that it probably is gone, but I will update the listing in a couple of days if it isn't. It was taking too much time to reply to the emails.

My other big accomplishment yesterday was emptying and dismantling an 8-foot by 5.5-foot bookcase. I packed the books in boxes, which I will put out on the deck (covered with a tarp) while we are doing the flooring. My friend doing the tile work will de-stinkify that part of the subfloor (where the cats peed), and with the bookcase out of the way we can pull up the carpet. I have a couple of smaller bookcases I will also have to empty for carpet installation, but that shouldn't be as big a deal. I hauled all the pieces of the bookcase outside last night, and they picked it up with the trash this morning.
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Old 07-17-2013, 08:40 AM
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Wow, fireplace really does look good. Think I saw your cat in the first pic.
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I have a couple of smaller bookcases I will also have to empty for carpet installation, but that shouldn't be as big a deal. I hauled all the pieces of the bookcase outside last night, and they picked it up with the trash this morning.
Amazing accomplishment Lexie! What a big move, (the huge bookcase) and how quickly you are moving now.
It's great to see others do it. Inspiration.
Beautiful fireplace, and wow, what a change to that room!

Time for more UFYH!

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Nope, not my cat (nor my butt) in the first pic. These were taken when I first looked at the house--the cat belongs to the former owners, and the butt belongs to my real estate agent.
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Old 07-17-2013, 09:52 AM
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Hey Lexie -- you've really inspired me... no remodeling going on in my humble abode, but I'm on a cleaning and purging spree that would make you and Martha Stewart proud.

Last weekend, I drove (I am ashamed to admit) THIRTY-FIVE big black lawn bags to the dump. Not to mention the numerous loads to goodwill. It feels tremendously good and a bit like "out with the old, in with the new" except I'm really going to limit the "new" part...

So thank you for the inspiration! And keep these posts coming -- I love seeing what you do!
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Old 07-17-2013, 09:53 AM
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Ooooh and thanks for the reminder of Freecycle. I totally forgot that!
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Old 07-17-2013, 10:02 AM
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Last weekend, I drove (I am ashamed to admit) THIRTY-FIVE big black lawn bags to the dump. Not to mention the numerous loads to goodwill. It feels tremendously good and a bit like "out with the old, in with the new" except I'm really going to limit the "new" part...
The last time I had a weight loss comparable to the crap I am getting rid of now is when I kicked out the last guy I lived with (and I'm talking HIS weight, not his stuff!).

It really does make one feel LIGHTER, doesn't it? And the more we are freeing up space, the easier it is to see where things can go, and to figure out how to make the best use of the space we have.

This is the most therapeutic thing I've done since I got sober!
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Old 07-17-2013, 10:09 AM
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OK, this is good. A guy who lives five minutes away from me is coming with his son tonight to get the pool table. He knows exactly how to take apart a pool table, knows what kind it is, and definitely wants it. He said the only potential problem is if it is a single piece of slate rather than three (I suspect, but don't know, that it's a three-piece slate), in which case he will return tomorrow to get the slate. I feel comfortable with this guy--just call it instinct. He will do what he says he will do. The others, you couldn't really tell if they knew what they were getting into.
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Last weekend, I drove (I am ashamed to admit) THIRTY-FIVE big black lawn bags to the dump. Not to mention the numerous loads to goodwill. It feels tremendously good and a bit like "out with the old, in with the new" except I'm really going to limit the "new" part...
lillamy,

No shame here! You did a fantastic job, what a load of "stuff" out of your way.
I am doing it for that clear feeling.
Looking in the closet and seeing what's there, stuff I use, not stuff I am holding
onto for "hoard" (using this word in the way it is used on that show).

One of those "hoard" reasons is the fear of giving up anything "just in case".
Now, I have a different perspective.
I want to move, do I want to carry this with me?
I am surprised and pleased at the number of times I can say no.
This is part of the past, not what I want to carry to the future.

It feels tremendously good and a bit like "out with the old, in with the new"
Some of my treasures are finds from the Salvation Army store, or other thrift stores.
To those of you of who give to the SA, thank you very much.
What is old to you is new to me!
I still have a 3 dollar clock on my bedroom wall, bought at the SA 5 years ago!
I love that place. But I have to limit my "in with the new" too!

What a great place SR is, I learn so much.
Thank you all for contributing.

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Old 07-17-2013, 01:51 PM
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This is the most therapeutic thing I've done since I got sober!
Word. Since my AH has been out of the house, I've been un effing my habitat one corner at a time. My house is still cluttered with kid stuff and antique stuff, but it's CLEAN under there and I know what's what. It's a huge relief.
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Old 07-17-2013, 02:00 PM
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One of those "hoard" reasons is the fear of giving up anything "just in case".
Yes.
I've been holding on to things because
a) I had no comfort or feeling of "home" in my marriage, so I held on to things that connected me to a time or place where I did have that feeling. And
b) In my marriage, I lived in a constant fear of deprivation. When my partner went with me to the storage unit for the first time, his first question was "WHY do you have TWO vacuum cleaners? Why do you have a vacuum cleaner in storage?" and all I could say was "well... if the one I have at home breaks..." and he filled in "if the one you have at home breaks, it's cheaper for you to buy a new one than to pay $100 a month for a storage unit to store another old one in..."

There are a lot of behaviors I had that were directly related to my marriage. Another one is that I shopped at Costco and always had enough canned food and dry goods to feed my family for at least six weeks at any given time. My new partner freed me of that too -- he figured out that it was that fear of the future that comes from living with a person who may or may not drink all the grocery money before next payday. So he bought me one of those "emergency survival food supply" buckets and said "here's 72 hours worth of food for you and the kids. It takes up no space. And you won't be throwing out green beans that expired two years ago anymore."

He's a good man. And he gets me.
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Old 07-17-2013, 02:57 PM
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I wound up with TWO carpet steam-cleaners because I forgot I had already bought one--it was buried in the mess. I donated one that was NEVER USED to Goodwill.

Heh, I also donated a second "Express 101" grill. For some ungodly reason I ordered TWO of them from an infomercial the week I got sober. I dunno, I guess I was thinking of quick, easy meals. I NEVER order stuff from infomercials. I probably should have donated them both--I don't know if I've ever used the one that I opened. But WTF, I can always donate that one later if I want to. Maybe with an organized kitchen I actually will start cooking occasionally.
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Old 07-17-2013, 03:09 PM
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My reason for hoarding:

I just don't want to go through the stuff to stir up memories.

I moved to my new house a little over 2 years ago, got bins of clothing mostly that I have not gone through. This is the year for that though.

Having my basement refinished and need to get rid of the junk.

BTW, I also have 2 vacuums
2 chainsaws
2 power washers

reason why, the first ones broke, never got them repaired, got new ones, now my contractors are here and they are fixing all of them for me for nothing.

Sometimes people really are nice.

And Lexie, hope all goes well tonight with the pool table. And of course, you are an inspiration to me
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Old 07-17-2013, 03:15 PM
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Thanks, the guy just called to make sure nobody else talked me into giving them the pool table. He said he and his son will be here in less than an hour. I will report back.
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Old 07-17-2013, 03:46 PM
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I just don't want to go through the stuff to stir up memories.
I was actually contemplating having a ritual burning of my wedding dress...
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I was actually contemplating having a ritual burning of my wedding dress...

Oh [email protected] again. I just cleaned up the water I spit all over my computer with the 4 C's. I would consider burning my wedding dress, but can't do it in my wood stove, they don't allow outside burning here, guess perhaps on Dec 6th, I can take it to my friends fire pit and burn it there.

Oh, but sorry, back to you Lexie !!!!!!! Hope all goes well, they do seem interested.



but PS-- for those that don't know what the 4th C is ------ you can't reason with crazy.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:13 PM
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Aaaannnddd...

The pool table is HISTORY!! The guy, his son, and another helper showed up about 20 minutes later than he said he would (he explained he wanted one more guy in case it turned out to be single-slate). Start to finish, it took them less than half an hour to take it apart and take it out of here. He was so knowledgeable that he was unscrewing bolts with one hand while he was strolling around the table and talking on his cell phone. He has two kids with families in his house--including four little kids, and he was telling me how his dad taught him to shoot pool when he was their age (3-4). And it's a good thing he brought one more guy because it WAS a single-slate table. The young guys carried the slate, and they JUST made it the distance they had to carry it.

I still have the little corner bar to get rid of, and the little office fridge, but those are comparatively easy to move (two guys could easily carry the bar). I will keep those on CL for now. The son who came to get the pool table said he knows someone who might want the bar.

So, woo-HOO!! I saved myself $245. It would have been nice to sell the pool table, but this guy and his family will enjoy it, and he had the skill to take it away. He agreed with me that most people wouldn't have a CLUE what's involved in trying to move a pool table.
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Old 07-17-2013, 05:23 PM
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That is just so great !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So happy to hear that. Now you are really on a roll !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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