I think i just need a hug...
I think i just need a hug...
The disgust I feel for this POS I allowed into my life is huge. There are real, REAL things happening in life right now, but God forbid that should make a difference. I'm actually proud of myself. I didn't take his bull****, wa snt even disappointed, not surprised, didn't feel the need to defend myself, just said,"no that's not true" and things like that. Don't even want to go into it right now. I'm just really tired. I should be able to count on his support right now but as usual is all about him. "Poor you. Guess what? It's not all about you. I'm not so co-dependent that I'm going to live like this forever. I don't say that to hurt YOU. With my health you know it'll be a nightmare for me to leave. I wouldn't put myself through so much just to hurt YOU. No, it's about ME. I wouldn't leave to hurt YOU, id leave to save myself."
Really, what is going on in life right now, his disgusting behavior and crack head like obsession are just magnified and it will be a miracle of he ever effing gets it.
I know after this period of turmoil is over, I have to focus on my health and get the eff away from this ¢¡|[*\]…
I'm not even surprised or disappointed anymore. The fact that he can't be decent no matter how serious the crap going on in life...Ugh. just repulsive. I'm proud that I talked to myself enough as to what to expect from him, which is nothing, literally nothing except a childish blame game where he takes no responsibility for anything, I talked to myself about it enough that I'm not surprised or disappointed. Now I'm just left repulsed. That's a good thing. Because I won't live in repulsion forever.
Needed to vent, thanks for listening.
Really, what is going on in life right now, his disgusting behavior and crack head like obsession are just magnified and it will be a miracle of he ever effing gets it.
I know after this period of turmoil is over, I have to focus on my health and get the eff away from this ¢¡|[*\]…
I'm not even surprised or disappointed anymore. The fact that he can't be decent no matter how serious the crap going on in life...Ugh. just repulsive. I'm proud that I talked to myself enough as to what to expect from him, which is nothing, literally nothing except a childish blame game where he takes no responsibility for anything, I talked to myself about it enough that I'm not surprised or disappointed. Now I'm just left repulsed. That's a good thing. Because I won't live in repulsion forever.
Needed to vent, thanks for listening.
You know, sometimes the best conversations you can have is when you have them with yourself !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I always talked to myself, no one else was listening.
And here are some (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))) for you.
And here are some (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))) for you.
Here is a virtual hug!
I learned very early on that I could not count on my A, especially when I actually needed him. He was okay at listening to me vent about the little things, but when things happened to really upset me, he would just throw some Alcoholic tantrum about me not being there for him, and we'd end up in a huge fight. One time this happened when I had a bad cold, and I ended up with bronchitis which I am positive was from the stress. After that, I stayed away from him when I was either emotionally or physically vulnerable.
You are married to your A so I guess that is hard to do. Can you stay in a separate room and try not to interact with him? My advice is not only not to look toward him for support, but also to consider him a toxic presence that is undermining your mental and physical health. When you are unwell, you need extra space from him if at all possible. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh.
I hope you feel better, sweetie!
I learned very early on that I could not count on my A, especially when I actually needed him. He was okay at listening to me vent about the little things, but when things happened to really upset me, he would just throw some Alcoholic tantrum about me not being there for him, and we'd end up in a huge fight. One time this happened when I had a bad cold, and I ended up with bronchitis which I am positive was from the stress. After that, I stayed away from him when I was either emotionally or physically vulnerable.
You are married to your A so I guess that is hard to do. Can you stay in a separate room and try not to interact with him? My advice is not only not to look toward him for support, but also to consider him a toxic presence that is undermining your mental and physical health. When you are unwell, you need extra space from him if at all possible. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh.
I hope you feel better, sweetie!
Here is a virtual hug!
I learned very early on that I could not count on my A, especially when I actually needed him. He was okay at listening to me vent about the little things, but when things happened to really upset me, he would just throw some Alcoholic tantrum about me not being there for him, and we'd end up in a huge fight. One time this happened when I had a bad cold, and I ended up with bronchitis which I am positive was from the stress. After that, I stayed away from him when I was either emotionally or physically vulnerable.
You are married to your A so I guess that is hard to do. Can you stay in a separate room and try not to interact with him? My advice is not only not to look toward him for support, but also to consider him a toxic presence that is undermining your mental and physical health. When you are unwell, you need extra space from him if at all possible. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh.
I hope you feel better, sweetie!
I learned very early on that I could not count on my A, especially when I actually needed him. He was okay at listening to me vent about the little things, but when things happened to really upset me, he would just throw some Alcoholic tantrum about me not being there for him, and we'd end up in a huge fight. One time this happened when I had a bad cold, and I ended up with bronchitis which I am positive was from the stress. After that, I stayed away from him when I was either emotionally or physically vulnerable.
You are married to your A so I guess that is hard to do. Can you stay in a separate room and try not to interact with him? My advice is not only not to look toward him for support, but also to consider him a toxic presence that is undermining your mental and physical health. When you are unwell, you need extra space from him if at all possible. I'm sorry if this sounds harsh.
I hope you feel better, sweetie!
I am lucky that he's in the kitchen cooking right now. We are too broke for alcohol but he was given the opportunity to obtain free beer. Awesome! I said something like,"Only ten so far?" which of course I shouldn't have, and he's actually trying to tell me he cooked with like half of them lol. Please.
The good news is I'm definitely getting better with making less comments that will just inflame his arrogance, and making less severe comments. And I was just reflecting on some of the things he has done to me, thinking how insane it is and how I just need to work towards leaving.
Just now he told me that he cleaned the waste out of some of the clams he was cooking...because I was like ,"oh yuck is that poop?" After he says he's going to freeze some for himself that haven't been cleaned bc he's "not above" eating that, and "I know you put yourself on a pedestal..."
Told him in not in the mood for his drunk bs and that if I put myself on a pedestal I'd demand to be treated better, wouldn't I?
Pedestal, here I come
I'm getting there.
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