Sold my wedding ring today.
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Sold my wedding ring today.
Sold my wedding ring today and feel so - yuck , just sad I guess. I am hoping that cutting all ties will be good for me in the long run.
I picked up 2 leaflets in Alanon earlier this week - One called
Alcoholism A Merry Go-Round Named Denial
and 'Understanding Ourselves and Alcoholism,
reading them really resonated with me and makes me realize how STBXAH is behaving almost exactly as described. I have cut off contact completely with him for 6 weeks and it's the most calm and peaceful I can remember feeling apart from the anxiety that creeps in when I have to deal with financial issues myself. I realize now how much I relied on him to tell me - everything would be alright'! Urghh!
But still IT is SO HARD to have to continue living with the denial and blame being put about by him - I imagine thats what he's continuing to do anyway.
The last few days I have dragged myself out of bed and made myself do things which always ends up making me feel better. I no longer dread the divorce process I just see it as sad and inevitable now if I am to have a second chance at life without all this. And he gets his chance as well to start again - all be it as an active A.
I just hope I can get back to normal soon because it still feels like such a slow slow recovery!!
I picked up 2 leaflets in Alanon earlier this week - One called
Alcoholism A Merry Go-Round Named Denial
and 'Understanding Ourselves and Alcoholism,
reading them really resonated with me and makes me realize how STBXAH is behaving almost exactly as described. I have cut off contact completely with him for 6 weeks and it's the most calm and peaceful I can remember feeling apart from the anxiety that creeps in when I have to deal with financial issues myself. I realize now how much I relied on him to tell me - everything would be alright'! Urghh!
But still IT is SO HARD to have to continue living with the denial and blame being put about by him - I imagine thats what he's continuing to do anyway.
The last few days I have dragged myself out of bed and made myself do things which always ends up making me feel better. I no longer dread the divorce process I just see it as sad and inevitable now if I am to have a second chance at life without all this. And he gets his chance as well to start again - all be it as an active A.
I just hope I can get back to normal soon because it still feels like such a slow slow recovery!!
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Hugs today from me.
I did the same 6 months ago. Used the money for a great Xmas for my girls!
It takes time to heal a broken heart and dashed dreams. Be easy on yourself. You are doing great already, even when it doesn't feel like it.
Peace,
~T
I did the same 6 months ago. Used the money for a great Xmas for my girls!
It takes time to heal a broken heart and dashed dreams. Be easy on yourself. You are doing great already, even when it doesn't feel like it.
Peace,
~T
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I sold mine many years ago to pay the first month's rent after leaving the AH.
It was so much better than selling my soul.
You will find roots. Just keep reading those pamphlets to help you stay strong.
It was so much better than selling my soul.
You will find roots. Just keep reading those pamphlets to help you stay strong.
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I can only assume AXH was a cheapskate. 
I was going to sell my wedding band and engagement ring but when I realized how little I'd get for them, I decided to have them melted down and remade into pendants for my girls. The goldsmith guaranteed me that "ain't no bad juju survives the temperatures I'm heating these to, sweetheart!"
I was going to sell my wedding band and engagement ring but when I realized how little I'd get for them, I decided to have them melted down and remade into pendants for my girls. The goldsmith guaranteed me that "ain't no bad juju survives the temperatures I'm heating these to, sweetheart!"
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Big hugs to you.
You will get through this & each day you will get a little stronger until one day you won't even think about him & you will have a happy healthy life.
I gave my wedding ring back but then decided I would like to gift it to my daughter as it is a part of both Mum & Dad.
I've just had my will made up & I am gifting my engagement ring to one daughter & my wedding ring to another.
You will get through this & each day you will get a little stronger until one day you won't even think about him & you will have a happy healthy life.
I gave my wedding ring back but then decided I would like to gift it to my daughter as it is a part of both Mum & Dad.
I've just had my will made up & I am gifting my engagement ring to one daughter & my wedding ring to another.
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