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New and hopeful
I just joined the site minutes ago. I am the husband of a wife echo is an alcoholic. She thinks she can over come on her own. I am feeling stressed and know I am not dealing with the situation properly. I am seeking help and advise from those who have been there.
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Welcome, you are in a great place, here. I suggest you also try Al-Anon, which is another GREAT source of support.
I've been in two alcoholic marriages (one got sober and stayed that way, the other did not), and I am almost five years sober, myself. There are a very few people who manage to get happily sober and stay that way without the help of AA or a similar program, but most people have to at least try it on their own before they are convinced.
I've been in two alcoholic marriages (one got sober and stayed that way, the other did not), and I am almost five years sober, myself. There are a very few people who manage to get happily sober and stay that way without the help of AA or a similar program, but most people have to at least try it on their own before they are convinced.
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Welcome Beg. I will echo what Lexie already said. Please find an AlAnon meeting near you, and make the time to attend. You will find a room full of people who get where you are, who have been there, who offer no judgement/advise/criticism. They simply share their experience/strength/hope to help you on your journey. The suggestion is to attend 6 meetings before deciding if it's for you or not. If you live where there are several meetings, then go to a few different ones. Each one is a little different. Find the one that feels right for you.
Keep reading and posting here. Read the sticky's at the top of the page. Welcome.
Keep reading and posting here. Read the sticky's at the top of the page. Welcome.
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Hi Beg...you've reached the point I was at when I reached out for help - when I knew my actions were not helping the situation and I was part of the problem. I started with counseling, spoke to the priest at my parish, eventually both encouraged me to get to Al-Anon in addition to my counseling.
My RAH thought he could overcome this disease on his own too. He did it once before - was dry for 17 years. He relapsed, and within a year was completely unrecognizable. He's tried to quit 7 times in the last 7 months. This time he has reached 28 days...he finally started AA this time.
I don't know what the future holds for me, him or for us, but I'm finding that as I begin working my recovery I know that I will be okay, regardless. I'm several months into this already, and I have a long time to go. You're among friends here; welcome.
My RAH thought he could overcome this disease on his own too. He did it once before - was dry for 17 years. He relapsed, and within a year was completely unrecognizable. He's tried to quit 7 times in the last 7 months. This time he has reached 28 days...he finally started AA this time.
I don't know what the future holds for me, him or for us, but I'm finding that as I begin working my recovery I know that I will be okay, regardless. I'm several months into this already, and I have a long time to go. You're among friends here; welcome.
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