Chantilly

Hello to michellec and everyone. I too can relate to ur situation. My ABF and i recently ended it cos basically I couldnt take the verbal abuse anymore,and it was long distance! I was going to join him,we were makeing plans to start a life together, but I noticed it was me that had to make all the changes whilst he just got drunk and high. He insists that that will all change when im there to "take care of him", but I know in my heart nothing will change. The irrational outbursts,the disrespect,the anger,the continual putdowns, the degredation and blame, ( everything is all My fault)....it scares me to think what wouldve happened if i had moved. He now emails me to tell me to becareful,as hes watching me. I tried so hard to help him,but i just cant get through,and now im exhausted mentally and pysically and just completely run down. So please becareful with the decisions u make. I have to learn how to focus on myself again......if I can