Manipulative alcoholic
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I just read your post and trust and believe, your brother sounds exactly like my brother except mine is 48 years old. Many times I searched my heart and soul on what I or others have done to contribute to this behavior. My brother is bad news as well. He manipulates my sister, my daughter and others in the family.
This used to include me until Feb 2013 while in a drunken stupor, he could not get to his drugs that were left in a back pack at someones home he visited, he calls me up, swearing and cursing and using vile language and profanity and saying things that even I knew he would be sorry for and something snapped in me. It was like I was hearing all of this for the first time. So I held the phone, listened to every nasty vile thing imaginable and then I said "you will hate yourself when you come down off that high, sober up from all that alcohol and realize how bad "this" call you are making really is. But just in case you forget, my absence will remind you when you are no longer welcome.
Although sad about his condition, I am so relieved that as the single hold out for continuing to allow his manipulative, angry, aggressive behavior, I still feel great about my decision. It might be hard, it may cause me some sleepless nights, but it is still the best decision I ever made because I do believe my absence will make a difference in his life........or not.
This used to include me until Feb 2013 while in a drunken stupor, he could not get to his drugs that were left in a back pack at someones home he visited, he calls me up, swearing and cursing and using vile language and profanity and saying things that even I knew he would be sorry for and something snapped in me. It was like I was hearing all of this for the first time. So I held the phone, listened to every nasty vile thing imaginable and then I said "you will hate yourself when you come down off that high, sober up from all that alcohol and realize how bad "this" call you are making really is. But just in case you forget, my absence will remind you when you are no longer welcome.
Although sad about his condition, I am so relieved that as the single hold out for continuing to allow his manipulative, angry, aggressive behavior, I still feel great about my decision. It might be hard, it may cause me some sleepless nights, but it is still the best decision I ever made because I do believe my absence will make a difference in his life........or not.
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-mentally and physically abusive-
I've seen it here too. Extremely manipulative and demeaning along with a violent short temper. I don't think it's all alcohol or drugs either. They definately don't help but there are already somekind of issues includng impulse control.
I'd say staying physically safe is the number one priority.
I've seen it here too. Extremely manipulative and demeaning along with a violent short temper. I don't think it's all alcohol or drugs either. They definately don't help but there are already somekind of issues includng impulse control.
I'd say staying physically safe is the number one priority.
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