Stung

Hahaha! Touché! I definitely do not fall under the normal category. Which is why I am where I am now.

lizatola

Normal is overrated anyway!

HopefulinFLA

Stella have you heard of Meetup.com? They have groups that get together for all types of interests ranging from professional to recreational. It's a great way to meet people with common interests.

Stung

Oh, I actually use meetup.com to find mommy groups and play groups in my area. It's a great way to meet "normal" people.

hopeful4

I would do the things I like to do for me first...then try to meet people there so I know we have like interests.

I am married but have met lovely men at different places that I have thought...now...if I was not married he is a gem....LOL. No, I have never had a physical or emoational affair just to clear that up! My point is these are just people I have met out and about while I am doing what I like to do.

Good Luck!

Hammer

Maybe for the AA-ers to try to bag something. Dunno.

But the predators seem to be a little scared to come over to the Alanon side for that.

They prey on their own. Keeping with Bill W's style, I suppose.

The Other Women

The AA side maybe figures we gots Alanon-Fu to whip on them or something

Our side (Alanon) tends to stay pretty safe -- even the boob-huggers were cross-overs from the AA side.

Alanon is safe for the women generally because . . . mmmm . . . huh . . . Alanon men tend to be such pathetic poosies. Had to make me spell it out, huh? You Suck.

As for the Man Of Your Dreams -- try Oprah?

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Stung

I doubt this is true. Have you thought about working on your own self esteem? If seeking out help makes someone a pathetic puss then that would make me one too - and I'm not, in case you're wondering. I'm a badass that drives a Prius.

He is currently in the works. Hopefully he pulls his head out of his butt and stays sober and starts to really embrace becoming the man that he and I want him to be.

Otherwise I'm just going to become an old maid.

HopefulinFLA

If seeking out help makes someone a pathetic puss then that would make me one too - and I'm not, in case you're wondering. I'm a badass that drives a Prius.[/QUOTE]

Lmao! You rock stung! I read your post about this yesterday.

MyBetterWorld

Oddly enough, I met my current, wonderful, not an alcoholic or anything even remotely close to it, boyfriend....at a bar. I don't go to bars much, but a little over a year ago a friend of mine wanted to go out for my birthday. She invited other friends of hers.....I had been having a rough time and she wanted to make it fun. The awesome man who I am with now showed up.
He stayed out with us till the end of the night, maybe had 2 or 3 beers the whole time. Now we go out maybe once every couple of months. It's so refreshing. It's like I didn't even know what I was missing.
I guess my point is, it IS POSSIBLE to meet a normal, nice, non alcoholic person in a bar. I'm pretty sure at this point you can spot the ones to stay away from.

caboblanco

i always loved the old saying that"a good relationship is all about honesty"

most dishonest thing I ever heard

Hammer

Hey I am in Therapy. And the Steps Stuff. And Alanon. wtf.

But I know how to handle you.

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oh come now. Don't do this. That is like telling a guy he is a "winner" because the girls are letting him play on the girls' basketball team.

CAPTAINZING2000

My personal opinion pray and let god answer your prayers . Make sure it's on his time frame. Sometimes we like to use ours instead

Katchie

HAHAHA!!!

But what I would like to know is how many codies marry codies? And if they did/do, do sound like Disney's Chip and Dale?

shil2587

I can honestly say that I don't know even one person who healthy, well adjusted or had a healthy upbringing. In fact, the healthier I get, the more I find out about the crazy because people ask me for help (whether other teachers, students, family, friends or church people). That makes me feel more valued and... Oh wait.

Goes back to working on me. XD

SparkleKitty

Well, I am married to one...but he sure as heck didn't come out of the box that way! Long before we met he was in therapy to deal with his stuff. And although we had mutual friends for over ten years before we'd met, we had never even been introduced. Thank goodness, because *I* wasn't emotionally ready to meet him (or anyone) one second before I actually did!

DG0409

I don't know about the Chip and Dale part. But a lot of alcoholics and addicts are Double Winners. Actually, I think being codie can lead one to addiction.

I think I had codie tendencies from a young age. I was always focused on what somebody else was doing/thinking/feeling or not doing/thinking/feeling. There was nothing I could do to change it, so getting drunk and high to 'deal' with how it made me feel seemed to make sense.

Getting off the other stuff has led me to discovering just how codie I am. And I've come to realize my pot-addict bf (and also recovering A or perhaps dry drunk) is also very codie. He can spend all day worrying about what I am or am not doing and never once think about what HE should be doing.

It can really lead to quite a mess when you have two people in a relationship worrying about what the other person is doing and neither of them thinking about what they themselves are doing.

4MyBoys

Right now I feel I am ready to start dating, I think. I am noticing all the wonderful things about men again. After being with my XAH and faithful for 18 years it is a little strange.
You would think I would have no problem. I work at a training academy for first responders. Surrounded by good looking men in uniforms. Guess what? Anyone I have been interested in, married..... Seems like a cruel joke. Kind of like, "Water, Water everywhere but not a drop to drink." sigh.......

4MyBoys

choublak

All I know is, I go to an Al-Anon meeting that is downstairs from an AA meeting, and the few times when my meeting ended before the AA meeting I would be outside waiting for my boyfriend who goes to the AA meeting...some of those guys would be leaving the meeting checking me out like they've never seen a female before in their lives...ew. Like let's not be subtle about this at all.

choublak

Of the total of TWO guys that are regulars in the Al-Anon meeting I go to:

One is a little too depressing for my taste.

The other is too much like me to the point where it's too close for comfort, or something. For example, we both cannot talk and drive at the same time. Like me, he has been in a situation where he was driving a car and talking to the person in the passenger seat and almost not stopped at a red light because he was too caught up in the conversation. The other person was like, "what the f are you doing?!" I have been there. Put us in a car together, I'm almost certain there will be an accident.

ladyscribbler

some of those guys would be leaving the meeting checking me out like they've never seen a female before in their lives...ew. Like let's not be subtle about this at all.

LOL Choublak. I get the same feeling in the waiting room at the VA clinic. I suspect it's because I'm usually the only woman in there under 80 years old, so I'm slightly conspicuous. Tons of studs there, too. Guys who survived D-Day and Ia Drang valley. I could really be reeling 'em in. Too bad I'd rather walk barefoot over a mile long trail of Legos than start dating right now. Too much work to do on me. But this thread is cracking me up. Keep 'em coming y'all.